Friendships require work. This seems counterintuitive to everything I learned about friendship as a child. As a kid, you saw our friends every day at school or around the neighborhood. Friendship was something you fell into.

Adults don’t make friends as easily. They take time and effort- time to spend together, effort to get to know one another, to figure out where you fit in each other’s lives.

It feels exhausting. And yet, for me, at least, after an evening spent with a friend, life always seems so much better than it was that morning. Friendship is still worth it.