I think one of the reasons I regularly feel like I am just pretending to be a responsible adult is that I don’t like to clean. While having a clean house/room is nice, I rarely feel the need to clean for cleanings sake. In this way, I am the opposite of my mother.
But it’s not just my mother I am comparing myself to. I work with a woman who vacuums her area rugs and wood floors every day. Every day. I just recently started vacuuming every 2 weeks, right before my friend who is allergic to dogs comes over.