The Dog Ate My Wallet

The Dog Ate My Wallet

Personal Finance in a World of Excuses

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2011 = Winning

Important information about the data: prior to mid 2010, money that went on the credit card never got classified in any category other than credit card. That skews the data for everything from eating out, allowance, pets, house, and misc.

 

I have data going back to 2005, but for now, we’re sticking with what our financial life has looked like since 2008. Why 2008? That was the year I graduated with my MBA, the last year that C and I both had jobs the whole time, the year we had the largest combined income we’ve ever had, and honestly, the last year we went the whole year with our old “everyone has debt” attitude.

You’ll notice, that even though we made more money that year than we have since then, we also spent more. In fact, we spent more than we made, and we pulled a significant amount of money out of savings to help fund that.

Yeah, things weren’t working in 2008, and we didn’t even realize it.

 

Some things to know about 2009- my MIL lived with us that whole year. We ate out a lot. (Sadly, you might also notice that we spent the same amount eating out in 2008.) It also accounts for the spike in groceries. Our bills were also higher, as the MIL doesn’t know how to turn anything off.

But, good things about 2009, we didn’t pay as much to the credit cards, and we were paying them off. And, we paid a lot extra on the car, making it possible to pay it off in early 2010.

However, I was stressed beyond belief about our finances. C lost his job in May, and that was before anyone knew that unemployment was going to last as long as it did. If unemployment for C had ended before we paid off the car the following March, we wouldn’t have made it.

At the end of 2009 (December 30), I joined the Women in Red Racers to help get the support I needed for paying down debt. On that day, we had over $71,750 if non-mortgage debt.

 

2010 was a win, on so many levels. We paid off the car and the credit cards. In fact, we paid off almost $24,500 in debt AND saved about $5,300 in an emergency fund and to pay for C to go back to school.

 

That brings us to 2011. We only paid off $12,775 in debt. We only saved an additional $1,875. We added $4,775 to our debt. It seems like 2011 was a worse year for us.

But I have to call it a bigger win than 2010. Unemployment ended for C in the middle of the year, causing a drop in income of $6,600. We paid for all of C’s college expenses, over $7,800, in cash. On top of that, our pet expenses were 6 times what they had been in 2010, and those were also paid without debt. And while we added debt, the basement hasn’t flooded a single time this winter.

 

Today, we have reduced our non-house debt to less than $40,000. I finally owe less on my undergrad student loans than I borrowed. I’ve paid off over half of what I borrowed on my graduate student loans. In April, when we pay off the basement work, our non-mortgage debt will be half of what it was at the end of 2009.

 

So yeah, I’m calling 2011 a big win. I hope 2012 will be just as successful.

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Self-Promotion as a Process (part 2)

This is part 2 of a long post about self-promotion. Click here for part 1

Even beyond my fiction writing, I am not great at self-promotion for my blogs and online writing projects. I have mentioned here before that I have two other blogs (a daily micro-blog and a pet blog) and host a weekly/monthly micro-fiction contest. I always feel self-conscious about doing so, but how can I let people know those places exist if I do not tell anyone. Buying my own domain was one of the first, small steps I took toward promoting my work. My home page has links to all the blogs, the contest, the book, and a piece of fiction that had been published by a now defunct e-zine.

But once I got that home page, I simply made one announcement on my Facebook page that it existed and left it there. Maybe once every couple of months, I remind people of the micro-fiction contest. I feel like to do more than that, I would be annoying my friends and family, pressuring them into reading what I do, even though the monthly winner of the micro-fiction contest actually gets a $5 amazon.com gift card. And I do not want to do that. At the same time, if I am not comfortable promoting myself to people who already know, like, and support me, how am I ever going to promote myself to strangers who might be interested in my work?

I try to take baby steps. Joining Twitter was one of those steps. I have not been on it long, and I still wonder if people actually care about what I put out there. I still feel trepidation about entering in to conversations with people who already know each other- I wonder if they will feel like I am butting in to a “private” conversation. Still, I force myself to reply to at least one Tweet a day.

Just like interviewing, the more I force myself to do it, the better at it I will become (or at least that’s the hope).

 

This lack of confidence in my own work extends to Yakezie as well. A new class of members is scheduled for review/induction this January. My 6 months of membership is up January 21. I am not yet under the 200k Alexa ranking needed to become a full member, and my first inclination was to say I’ll just wait for the next class. Why try if I think I might fail? But the truth is, my Alexa rank is still dropping. It dropped 100k in just two weeks (Dec 11 to Dec 25), form 375k to 275k. I should be able to get it down another 75k in four weeks, as long as I am willing to put myself out there.

But then I get held up again. The next questions are can you name 10 challengers and 10 members who I have built relationships with. What qualifies as a relationship? Do I even have 20 PF bloggers? (Given that there are 30 Yakezie member/challenger blogs that I click on every day and try to comment on regularly, the answer is probably yes, but still I doubt.) It asks if Sam of Financial Samurai knows who I am- well, I have left comments on his blog, and I have interacted with him on Twitter, but can I really be sure he knows who I am?

The answer to these questions is that I cannot be sure, and that I need to continue building relationships where I can, but also that I need to have confidence in myself and what I am already doing, and put myself out there. If I do not make “member” in the next Yakezie class, I do not think they kick me out, or stop talking to me. No risk, no reward. I cannot make this a completely safe proposition.

I can accept being turned down by interviewers and editors. It has made me a better job candidate and a better writer. I can handle being turned down by Yakezie too. Because the truth is, it is not fear of rejection that holds me back, it is fear of the unknown, the waiting period in between putting myself out there and getting a response. Acceptance or rejection, I can handle both. It is the waiting that I dread.

 

I considered disabling comments on this post, as parts of it could come off as a passive aggressive attempt to get people to say they’d be on my Yakezie relationships with. That is not what I am looking for. As I get ready to put myself out there for Yakezie membership, I will reach out to those I hope will support me and ask, just like I would with job references.

I have chosen not to disable comments because one of my favorite things about blogging (as opposed to fiction writing) is the instant feedback and continuing conversations that comments can provide.

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Sunday Evening Post: New Year Edition

Day

Amount

Place

Category

Monday

$50.50

Gas

Car

Tuesday

$8.00

Lunch

Allowance

$12.00

Safeway

Groceries

Saturday

$89.00

CostCo

Groceries

$1.00

Safeway

Groceries

$5.00

Parking

Car

 

 

Only about $165 in spending this week, and it would have been less if I had remembered to bring our CostCo gift cards to CostCo. Oh well, they’ll keep the spending down another week. There might still be a parking expense this evening.

 

The New Year is not starting off on the best note on the personal side (vs the financial side).  At this moment in time, I’m not ready to go into details, but the MIL went from being a week or so away from going home on Christmas Eve to being in the ICU on New Year’s Eve.

 

Over the next week or so, I’ll be doing my yearly comparisons going back 3-4 years, showing how C and I have changed our spending patterns (or at least our tracking our spending patterns) and have a good retrospective on what worked for us in 2011 and what didn’t.

Things I do count as a success:

We paid for all of C’s college courses in cash. As long as tuition prices don’t go up too much (state budget cuts), we actually have enough in savings to pay the rest of his tuition through 2013.

We paid $0 in credit card interest this year, while still earning $300 worth of credit card rewards in the form of gift cards and money off of travel. This despite losing one dog to cancer and then having a cancer scare with another one. Yay for having an emergency fund.

Our basement has not flooded this winter, for the first winter since we bought this house. While we are still paying on the basement work until April, let me tell you, I definitely count this one a win.

 

I also have some goals for 2012. Nothing as exciting as what some of the other bloggers have posted, but things I’m working on, none the less.

1)      I want to have at least one piece of fiction writing accepted for publication- a paying publication.

2)      I want to publish my next art/fiction combination book, working with an artist I adore. The goal is for it to pay for itself, and maybe even a little extra.

3)      I plan to attend FinCon12. Preliminary research shows plane tickets should cost a little over $200, and that Jana of Daily Money $hot is willing to share a room with me, cutting both of our hotel fees in half. I am beyond excited about this. However, it still is going to cost me 4 months’ worth of allowance, and I am bad about saving my allowance, so I need to get some discipline around that. I plan to use any money I make from my fiction, the book, or ads toward FinCon.

Aggressively, I’d like to say I want to pay for FinCon completely with side hustle money, but I also want to be realistic.

4)      I want to become a full member of Yakezie. (You’ll see more about this in Tuesday’s post.)

5)      I would like to actually make money from this blog. I haven’t checked my Google Adsense account since I started my website, so it’s possible I’ve already made some, but somehow I doubt it. For this, I’ll need to reach out to others on the Yakezie network for help and advice.

6)      I want to be healthier. I refuse to make it a goal to lose weight, even though I am morbidly obese, per BMI. I believe very much in the Healthy at Any Weight movement. Sure it would be nice to be skinnier; that’s much more acceptable in our society, but I want healthy. I want to improve my endurance, get my knees in better shape, and keep my cholesterol under control. (Both sides of my family have cholesterol issues, so it’s a battle against genetics, but one I think can be managed.)

I know Larry will make a great running companion, so I need to research parks around here that have good, FLAT running trails. Hills are everywhere. I need flat, at least to start.

So those are my 6 goals for the year that I am 62 years old.

I hope that everyone has a great 2012, and I look forward to seeing what everyone can accomplish.

 

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11 Links to Finish Off 2011 #yakezie

2011 has been a great year for me. I started this personal finance blog, my third blog, and it has grown faster than either of the others, thanks mostly to the Yakezie network and the amazing people I’ve met over there.

I don’t do blog round ups as often as I feel like I should. I promise to try and get better about that in 2012. But what that means is that there have been some great posts this year, posts I’ve loved, that I haven’t linked to in a round up, and for whatever reasons, they didn’t spark a follow up post here.

So, here are 11 (well really 12) links to posts I have loved this year. Appearing in alphabetical order by blog name:

 

 

Another Housewife Miscarriages, They Happen. You have no idea how much respect I have for Mrs C for writing this post. While I have never suffered a miscarriage (I’ve never been pregnant at all), my best friend went through a couple of them, and another friend suffered one not too long ago, as well. I know that it is a really hard thing for women to talk about, but kind of like finances, it’s one of those things that really does need to be talked about, if for no other reason that women going through don’t feel like they’re alone, like they’re defective. Miscarriages happen, and I love Mrs C for being willing to write about it.

 

Buck$ome Boomer Grandpa Got Scammed – Almost. My grandfather did get scammed this year. Someone claiming to be my brother called needing money. Papa tried to be careful, he asked questions he thought only a family member would know the answer to (I wouldn’t have even known the answer), and the scammer got it right. We only found out about it because my Aunt got suspicious and called me. And then, the scammers got greedy and called a second time, pretending to be my father. That at least, Papa knew was a scam, and both were reported to local authorities. Still, there’s not a whole lot that can be done after the fact. What protections does your family have in place to prevent this?

 

Daily Money $hot wrote a Confession series earlier this year that I loved. For some reason, I can’t find #2 on her blog, but that’s okay, because my favorite was #3- I hate being a bridesmaid. I was lucky in that my southern family introduced me to a lovely southern tradition- only be a bridesmaid 3 times (unless it’s for close family). After that, the response is “Thank you, but I honestly feel like someone else deserves the honor” For the record though, of the three weddings I’ve been in that count (junior bridesmaid for my Aunt does not), I never would have said no two 2 of them, no matter what.

 

Family Money Values Family Legacy Build a 100 Year Plan. First off, I love the whole idea of Family Money Values, of making personal finance a family issue, of talking with your kids about it from the beginning. So this post about building a 100 year plan to ensure wealth not only for you and your kids, but for their kids, and possibly for your siblings and their kids- an actual whole family financial plan, just inspires me. Of course, we don’t have kids, and I don’t trust my brother enough with money, but still, this idea will stay in my brain, and maybe one day…

 

First Gen American Am I a Feminist. I have written a lot over at 100 Words On about discrimination in general, and feminism in particular. It’s a struggle that I don’t believe has been won, even though many gains have been made. I really appreciated Sandy’s honesty about how she feels regarding feminism. Again, it’s one of those topics I think needs to be discussed. When we push it to the back burner, things get worse, not better.

 

Invest in the Markets Next Rare Earth Mineral. I originally thought I was going to post something from Dr Stock’s Food for Thought series about the best stocks in food and drink. But when searching for them, I came across this post again. The first time I read it, I came home and said to C- “hey, there’s this new rare earth mineral we need to follow because it might make solar power actually affordable and efficient for the masses”. C is all about alternative energy options. So while Dr Stock thought he might be giving me stock market advice (and if we were investing, I would totally be investing in this), what he gave us was a new scientific breakthrough to watch. And I love science.

 

 

Life and My Finances What? We got a Puppy? So I love pets, dogs in particular. I know that’s a total surprise to everyone. In fact, a couple of Frugal Beautiful’s posts almost made it here simply because they were about dogs. But honestly, this post inspired me so much that it is also featured in a guest post I wrote for pet blog That Mutt about Puppies as Christmas Presents. (So yes, this one has inspired a post, but not here.)

 

 

Money Beagle Be Prepared for the Inevitable. Who remembers what your teachers taught you in high school? Money Beagle does. Ok, maybe not the class material, but an important lesson, none the less. And like most lessons learned in high school, this one came from getting in trouble a little too often.

 

So Over Debt Are you too Comfortable with your Debt?. This is something I have had to ask myself this year. I have spent the last two years on a message board “racing” my non-mortgage debt. In fact, 12/30 was my 2 year anniversary exactly. In the first year, C and I managed to knock out a full third of our debt! This year, well, we added to it with the basement work we had done, and we won’t even reach 50% (of non-mortgage debt) paid off until about April or so. So it seems like we were really gung-ho for a year, and then just kind of petered out. That’s not quite true, as this year we’ve paid out of pocket for C to go back for his BS, but still, I need to pay attention. I don’t want to become complacent.

 

Squirrelers College or Entrepreneurship. Especially with the OWS kids being mad about their massive student loan debt when there are no jobs to be had, there’s been a lot of talk about whether a college degree really the best choice. (And I won’t even go into the arguments that try to break it out by individual degree.) Some people seem to think that kids right out of high school, instead of going to school, working for someone else, or a combination of the two, should instead just start businesses. They try to use famous entrepreneurs who don’t have degrees as examples, but I call BS on saying Gates and Zuckerberg never went to college. They went to Harvard! They didn’t get the degree, but they still went to college. Never underestimate the power of Harvard contacts, my friends. Anyway, I thought this was a thoughtful entry into the argument, especially since I agree with it.

 

Sustainable Life Blog Shenandoah National Park. Honestly, this post is almost as gratuitous as the puppy post. It wasn’t even written by Jeff. It was a guest post. But look, it has my name in it! Well, my name if my mother had been southern instead of a California girl and had known how to spell Shenandoah. I have been very lucky all of my life getting to visit a number of national parks, but believe it or not, I don’t know that I’ve ever been to the one I share a name with. I will have to rectify that someday.

 

 

And there you have it 11 (or 12) of my favorite posts from 2011. See you all again in 2012.

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Self-Promotion as a Process (part 1)

Most of the time, I like to think that I come across as a very confident person. I am comfortable meeting new people, being in large or small groups, and speaking in front of people. I have no problems talking about my opinions on the news of the day, or making small talk about the weather. I am even comfortable talking about myself, with one exception- I am very bad at promoting myself.

When it comes to my friends, both bloggers and the members of my writing critique group, I am a cheerleader. I am all about getting them to believe in what they are doing, helping them reach for that goal, encouraging them to submit that manuscript, etc. But when it comes to doing those things for myself, I fail.

This is one aspect of my personality that I know is an impediment to reaching my goals- both professionally and in my side projects. So, it has also been something I have been working on for the last 2.5 years.

I graduated with my MBA in May 2008. I did not start doing interviews until that fall, as part of an agreement with my boss (whose goodwill and recommendation carries a LOT of weight at my company). I got some courtesy interviews from internal departments- I met the minimum qualifications, and as an internal candidate, they interviewed me, despite having near perfect candidates as well, due to the job market. And from those interviews, I was lucky enough to get feedback, feedback that said I needed to be more confident in presenting myself and my work.

In fact, I interviewed with one department both early and late in the process. After the second interview, the feedback I got was that my interview skills had improved greatly. While I was not their first choice for the position, I was much closer to the top of the list than I had been the first time around, and they expected I would get a new position soon. And they were right.

It took me nearly two years of interviewing to become a confident candidate, to say to the interviewer that I was right for this job and here was why. In fact, I got my current job because I interviewed for different one in the department and the executive director called me to say “we went with someone with more of X kind of experience for this job, but I am going to have another opening in a month that I very much hope you will apply for.” I did, and I got it, along with a 33% raise.

Still, interviews are kind of a closed world, and I have struggled with bringing my interview confidence into my general dealings with other directors in my department or those who are not already familiar with my work. To help with that, I have decided to join a women’s leadership group at my company. I hope that it will help me not only network, but gain the confidence I need around the leaders of my organization to present myself as a candidate for further growth.

 

But self-promotion is not just about work. It continues in to my fiction writing life- I really have to gear myself up in order to submit a piece, and I rarely have more than one submission in at a time. That is not the way to become a successful fiction writer. I need to get my work out there in front of editors.

So, this last year, I made it a goal to get my work out there. While I still have not submitted to as many publications as I think I should, I did submit a portion of my longest work (a novella) to a major convention for work shopping. It is not an agent or an editor, but it is a first step, and one I am proud of myself for taking.

 

To go along with that, back in 2009, I published a book. It’s a coffee table style book that combines my brother’s photography with 100 word micro-fiction pieces written by myself, friends, and friends of friends. When talking about this book, I often refer to it as a vanity project, which in some sense it was, but that also diminishes it. I do not expect to make any money off this book, but I am incredibly proud of it. It even got a 5 star review from someone not either my brother or I know.

The book became a proof of concept for me (that I could get the contributors and that I could do the editing work) that has given me the confidence to contact another artist with the intention of publishing a second, similar book. The second book will hopefully be a money maker, but it will take both the artist and myself promoting it for that to happen.

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U.S. Healthcare is Broken

I’ve written before about how it costs more to be poor in this country, but beyond having to pay more often for lower quality items, one of the biggest reasons it costs more to be poor is healthcare.

Let me be honest here. I work in healthcare. I work for what is known as a managed care organization or MCO (which is different than an HMO, but not to the layman). My company combines both our own staff model clinics (salaried physicians) and the standard fee for service contracted providers. In fact, while I don’t negotiate contracts myself, I work in the department that does the contract negotiations with outside providers.

This is the industry that pays my bills, and I believe strongly in my company’s overall mission. But I assure you, healthcare in this country is BROKEN.

 

I’ve read a number of personal finance blogs that recommend negotiating with your doctor as a way of reducing fees. If you do not have insurance, you should definitely negotiate. If you do have insurance, do not bother. Your insurance company has already done a better job than you can ever dream of.

For example, my mother in law just had total knee replacement surgery. The hospital charge (which does not include the surgeon, he bills separately) is $54,355.83. This is what the bill would look like without insurance. However, she has insurance, and the negotiated rate knocked $37,606.89 off the bill, for a balance of only $16,748.94. That’s right, the contract between the hospital and the insurance company has the hospital receiving only 31% of their charged fees. My mother in law is responsible for only $795 of that.

$795 is an amount she can easily afford (because we saved for this). In fact, it’s less than 1/6 of what we pulled out of savings to cover her medical costs. (The majority of the costs will come from her stay in a rehab facility.) But what if she hadn’t had insurance?

People without insurance have to pay more than $795. They have to pay more than the $16,749 than the hospital is getting paid for this surgery. They are charged the full $54,356. And trust me, you as an individual, do not have the buying power to negotiate your bill down by 69%.

Sure, you can get it down some, but even if you were able to reduce it 50% (not likely, but let’s say you are the best negotiator in the world), you would still owe over $27,000. If you were then able to get on an interest free payment plan, paying say, $795/month, it would still take almost 3 years to pay off the bill.

And people wonder why medical bankruptcy is so high in this country.

 

Now, I know that most of the people who go without insurance are young, people who think that they are healthy, that nothing can happen to them. C got a kidney stone at age 27. He had just started a new job and did not yet have insurance. That kidney stone, and the drugs they gave him for pain, resulted in my marriage proposal (and you bet your sweet patootie that I held him to it). Because he was working, they would not discount his bill, but they did put us on a payment plan. Due to some paperwork snafus, it took us over 5 years to pay off that hospital bill.

In addition to the cost, the treatment he received from the triage nurse was below par. At one point, he moaned in pain. The nurse looked over her little wall and told him to be quiet, he was upsetting the other patients. (The other patients, for their parts, assured us they were only upset because he was in obvious pain and nothing was being done about it.) Do I think that would have happened had he had insurance? Very much no. I believe that if he had had insurance, we never would have been asked to wait, that he would have been taken back almost immediately.

We have since been to ERs (though admittedly not that one) with insurance and have always been taken care of immediately. After my car accident, we were not even finished with the triage nurse before they were calling me back. (Obviously a different set of circumstances, but I was in less visible distress than he had been with the kidney stone.)

In those subsequent cases, we never paid more than $100 out of pocket for an ER co-pay. $100, one time, instead of 5 years of debt.

 

Sadly, not every job offers health insurance, or offers coverage at a reasonable rate. Sometimes people have to make the choice between rent or groceries and health insurance, and I can not blame them for gambling on not getting sick. Bad things are guaranteed to happen if you cannot eat or keep a roof over your head; there is a chance no one in your family will get seriously ill or incur thousands of dollars in hospital bills.

 

I do not think people should have to make that choice, not for their children, not for themselves. I do not know that completely socialized medicine, or mandatory health insurance is the answer, but I would be willing to give either of them a shot. To quote Voltaire, “the perfect is the enemy of the good”. I do not know that there is a perfect solution out there, but what we have now, it is not even good.

Charging people who can afford it 1/34th of what we charge people who cannot is not a system that is ever going to work. Pretending that something costs 69% more than it apparently does, just to increase write-offs on the balance sheet, does not accurately reflect medical costs.

 

I am not saying hospitals or physicians should give away their services for free, nor do I think doctors should be making minimum wage, but I do think there needs to be an honest discussion of what healthcare REALLY costs, and how we care for all of our citizens, especially the most vulnerable among us.

This is a conversation that needs to be taking place at every level of our society- nationally, regionally, state-wide, and in our individual communities. Healthcare is one of those issues that is both intensely personal and a national concern at the same time. We cannot pretend the problems do not exist. We cannot sit back and hope someone else solves them.

Healthcare in this country is broken, and I for one, am willing to entertain any suggestions to make it better.

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Sunday Evening Post: Christmas Edition

Our Christmas roast, cooked for just under 2 hours, in the “fryer” we bought for Thanksgiving. I’m pretty sure at two meals it’s been worth the $100 we spent on it.

 

We had a wonderful day with friends, our dogs, and the MythBusters marathon.

We still need to put away the roast, ham, and the deserts, and there’s kitchen cleaning to do, but overall, it was a wonderful, quiet Christmas, spent in fabulous company. I couldn’t have wished for a better day.

 

I hope each and every one of you had a similarly good day.

 

Happy Christmas from The Dog Ate My Wallet

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Family Time

It is 5pm on Thursday night. This blog is scheduled to be updated at 5:30pm. One slight problem- I have no idea what I want to write about. There are lots of little thoughts going around my head, but nothing fully formed in to a post. I read all the blogs I read today, commented on a number of them, and yet still, nothing really inspired me. I blame the post-birthday, pre-Christmas doldrums.

So, since I only have little thoughts running around my head, here some of them are.

 

Besides being my birthday, yesterday would have been my grandparent’s 66th wedding anniversary. I say “would have been” because we lost my grandmother this spring. I talked to my grandfather today. He apologized for getting my birthday card out late. I know he’s sending me money. I know he and my grandmother had things set so that they would have (and certainly have had, despite her medical expenses) a comfortable retirement. And I think to myself, that’s what I want one day- to be married to the same person for over 65 years, and to not have to worry about money to the point that I can send 8 grandkids each $100 for Christmas. How much worse would this all be for him if he had to worry about money?

 

My 20 y/o cousin drove up from Portland for my birthday dinner last night. We paid for her food, and I’ll give her gas money- she’s a college student, after all. We also took her to Target and CostCo and got her a can opener and an electric kettle. She’s at an age where the practical matters, and means more than the fanciful. At the same time, I let her choose one of C’s gifts for him to get early, since it’s a game that they enjoy playing together. As I write this, they are playing one game without me, but expect me to join them for the next.

 

I feel better about the Christmas gifts I gave my family this year than I have in years. And you know what I gave? I donated to charities I knew they would support. For my father, we gave to Pets 2 Vets. For my mother, to Petfinder.com to sponsor training for shelter dogs to make them more adoptable. And for my brother, we’re sponsoring care for special needs animals. (Yes, animals are a major deal in my family.)

And when C kept insisting that he needed to give me a gift, we decided instead to donate to the Kissa-Bull family.

 

We still have some groceries to buy for Christmas dinner, as C finalizes the menu, but there will be only 6 people and 4 dogs, so a fairly low-key day. And, I’ll get ham in addition to our New York roast (to be made in the fryer we bought for the Thanksgiving turkey). That means ham sandwiches, which always makes me happy.

 

We had dinner last night with 17 of our friends. Officially, it was to celebrate my birthday, but really, it’s an excuse for us all to eat yummy Indian food, and to connect with our “chosen family” before we all separate into our birth families for the holidays. One of the friends there, I have known for 20 years. It always makes me happy to see my old friends and my new friends meeting, getting along, and forming friendships of their own. In addition, this year we forgot to ask for separate checks. Still, when the bill came, everyone pulled out their smart phones, did the math, and we left the right amount of tip for our server. She might even have gotten a bit more (depending on what other people with credit cards tipped). But that’s okay, because for a party of 19, that gets there at 6:30 and stays until close, the server is losing out on other tables, and deserves the big tip. (Plus we had great service.)

 

So that’s where we are. I will be back on Sunday night, probably not for a regular Sunday evening post, but to wish you all a Happy Holiday.

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The Basics

I got a call this weekend from a friend of mine who wanted to share some good news. On Friday, she was called in for an unexpected interview and then offered a new position- one making more money than she’s ever made before.

This friend has been underemployed for quite some time. She’s been working as a manager at a comic and games shop (funny, when we were teens, that seemed like a dream job), but it doesn’t really pay the bills.

She has some major credit card debt from when she quit her job a few years ago to start her own business. At the time, she’d been in a relationship for 10 years or so and her significant other said- quit your job, follow your dream, I’ll cover the bills. 8 months later, he said he wanted out of the relationship. (He is not a bad guy, just one with bad timing.)

Since then, while he did not kick her out of the house (they have other roommates, too), she has had to slowly take over paying her own bills. Bills, combined with debt, combined with still needing supplies to keep up with her freelance clients and doing work on spec (she’s an artist), making what an indy comic shop can afford to pay just isn’t getting everything paid. She’s been worried about coming up with grocery money.

So now, she has this great new job. It’s a contract job, with the contract set to last one year. (We live inSeattle, contract jobs are pretty normal.) She did the math, and she thinks that if she keeps living lean, she can pay off all of her credit card debt in one year.

And that’s where I come in. She called me to ask- pay of debt, or build up savings? All of her debt is at 18-23% APR, so it’s costing her a lot of money to just be making minimums. And I agree with her, she needs to get that paid.

But she also needs to be able to hedge against future emergencies.

And this is where I gave her some pretty standard personal finance blogger advice.

I said, to start, she should split her “extra” money 50/50 between savings and debt. Once she got her savings up to $1,000, then she should throw everything at the debt. But having that $1k in the bank means she’s less likely to have to turn to the credit cards again while she gets them paid off.

And, if at the end of her contract it’s not renewed, she has $1k in the bank to finish paying off the credit cards or to help see her through to another decent job.

 

In addition, it looks like she’ll be joining me on the debt payoff boards I frequent, where she’ll get more support and viewpoints besides my own.

I’ve told her I would be more than willing to sit down and help her create a budget, but that she needs to track her spending for a few weeks first, so that we have all the data.

 

I’m honored that she turned to me for advice. And I can’t wait to see her make progress on taking her financial live back under control.

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Birthday Week Links

I am starting with this bit from the pet blogging world. If you are one of those (few) people who reads both my pet blog and this one, I’m sorry for the repeat, but this is too important for me not to post on multiple times., and I know the personal finance blog world is full of generous people who love animals. So…

The wonderful family at Kissa-Bull lost their home and almost everything they own, including five of their seven dogs, to a terrible fire this last week. They are naturally devastated and recovery will take some time.

This is the family that sees the injured dog lying at the side of the road, or limping around the parking lot, and takes them home, gets them medical care, and provides them with love. They are good people in a tragic situation. If you have money left to give this year, please consider donating to the family here. And if by any chance you’re in the Houston area, contact Mayzie’s mom over at Mayzie’s Dog Blog for more you may be able to do.

And even if you’ve got nothing left to give financially, please head over to their blog and let them know that it’s not just the pet bloggers keeping the Kissa-Bull family in their hearts.

 

Once the tears dry, here are some of my favorite personal finance posts, in case you missed them.

This one if from more than a week ago, but since I love board games, I wanted to share Average Joe’s Financial Gift Guide to Board Games.

My good friend Jana at Daily Money $hot share her frustration about Birthday party etiquette (or lack thereof).

Niki over at Debt Free by Thirty turned 30 this week and gave us Thirty Things We Might Not Know About Her. (What I do know is that I wish I had been as financially together as she is back when I turned 30.)

Last Friday was the second annual Share Star Wars day and Jason over at Live Real, Now participated by showing how Yoda’s iconic advice “Do or do not. There is no try.” applies to the personal finance world.

Money Beagle got a new look, but also let us know why he says Bah Humbug to Secret Santa. For the record, my old department had a box of Jone’s Soda Holiday flavors that used to get passed around. It was the group gag gift, and we always made sure that new staff did not get stuck with it.

Finally, if you read my daily blog, you’ll know a little bit about how I feel about Tim Tebow. Squirrelers is able to take the Tebow-mania and apply a personal finance lesson to the phenomenon. Wow, that’s a lot longer than I want to spend with any member of the Broncos.

 

I think we’ll stop with 6 links, since later this week I’ll be 62. Arbitrary I know, but that’s what I love about blogging. I get to make all of my own (arbitrary or not) decisions. 🙂