The Dog Ate My Wallet

The Dog Ate My Wallet

Personal Finance in a World of Excuses

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Sunday Evening Post #42- I spent the weekend at the beach

Day

Amount

Place

Category

Tuesday

$3.28

Safeway

Groceries

Wednesday

$4.23

Cafeteria

Allowance

Friday

$163.36

CostCo

Groceries

 

$5.90

Post Office

MIL

 

$62.08

Safeway

Groceries

Saturday

$7.98

IGA

Groceries

Sunday

$5.00

Internet

Allowance

 

$61.00

Lowes

House

Felt much more in control this week. There were two days where we didn’t spend any money at all. Tuesday and Wednesday were small amounts (though one was lunch out for me). We also got everything mailed off to do probate in NV, where the MIL’s property is, so hopefully that will be done soon.

In addition, we got another life insurance check for the MIL, again, bigger than we expected it to be. When we found the policy, it was so small that when we called them, they just called the funeral home and told us- we’ll pay. They didn’t require any other paperwork. When we got the check, it was so much bigger than we expected (we are not talking huge amounts here, just a few thousand, but a few thousand has an impact) we had to figure out why. Apparently, they found she had a second policy with them, about 2x as big as the first, and paid that, too.

On Wednesday, we took a whole bunch of books to Half Price Books and got some money back from them. And then donated a few things toValueVillage.

Saturday morning, we got some basement cleaning done and more bins in the attic. Then I went off on my writers’ retreat with my writing group. (I had to pay for internet on Sunday because all of my writing is kept “in the cloud”.) C and J did more work in the house over the weekend, including finally making it so our dryer vents to the outside world instead of into our garage- this included running ducting along the roof of our garage to the outside wall. This coming weekend should see the dump run.

So, feeling in control and making progress. It was a good week, capped off with an excellent 32 hours spent with my writing group. I’m calling it a win.

This is where I went for Saturday night. The picture is taken from the beach. We had one of the end rooms with a view of the beach and ocean.

I have six goals for 2012. As part of the Sunday evening posts, I am tracking those goals, kind of like I do for spending, in order to hold myself accountable.

1)      Be paid for publishing one piece of fiction

Submissions so far: 2

Responses: 1 rejection 1 acceptance

I am getting very excited about the anthology I’m going to be published in.Readingthe galleys has just amped that up.

2)      Make money publishing my next art/fiction book

This is on hold for now. I’m hoping to get back to it in June.

3)      Attend FinCon12. Pay for the trip with money from allowance/side projects saved/earned BEFORE the conference starts. Goal: $600

My current balance is in the negatives- by a lot. I have already bought the ticket to FinCon12.

I’m holding off on buying a plane ticket for now. I do believe I’ll end up with enough credit card points to get one without spending any money out of pocket.

4)      Become a member of Yakezie (6 month anniversary is Jan 21)

I plan to be a member of Epsilon class when the application goes up in August. I do need to make sure I’m still connecting with new challengers, though, because a lot of the challengers on my list this last time will be Yakezie Delta class members.

In order to develop relationships with new challengers, I have decided that each edition of What I’m Reading on Saturdays will now include a new challenger.

5)      Make money from my blogs.

AdSense earnings: $21.94 (They won’t send me any money until I hit $100)

6)      Be healthier

Monday I brought a salad to work for lunch and took a nice walk. Beyond that, on Friday we went to the dog park, and on Saturday I took a stroll along the beach. But not much exercising. We did not eat to unhealthily, but also didn’t make any extra effort to make healthy foods.

Goals for this week include more Dance Central on the Kinnect and more walking.

This was not our sunset, but our sunset was very similar.

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What I’m Reading: Weekend at the Beach Edition

I’m at the beach this weekend- except that I’m not really. I’m in a condo at the beach, sitting on a laptop trying to get some writing done, as that is what one does at a writers’ retreat. How we managed to pick the most gorgeous weekend so far this year to lock ourselves inside, I have no idea.

But just because I’m away working on my writing, there’s no need for you not to know what I’ve been reading this week. So here you go.

 

Squirrelers has the unenviable task of helping his parents move out of their home of 34 years. (One of our writing retreat members has been going through this as well.) The family has been lucky to discover a number of family treasures during this time, including a Priceless Letter from Grandfather.

Mr. Money Mustache is good at rants. He really is. I like this one: Can We All Stop This Fucking Complaining About Our Government? Because it reminds me exactly how lucky I am to have always lived in the US and to take for granted the right to free speech that lets me criticize our government. Not everyone is so lucky.

In other ways I am lucky, I have great work benefits, including access to an onsite gym, a public transportation pass that costs me $35/year, when it costs other people $200/month, as well as great medical benefits. This week, Odd Cents talks about work benefits she wishes she had.

Are better benefits all you need to make you happy? Or is there some magical number when it comes to income? Making Sense of Cents talks about the recent study that says the gravy zone is between $50,000-$75,000 for happiness and wonders What’s Your Happy Number?

And speaking of what makes us happy, I’ve been really enjoying my new plants this year. I’m not much of a gardener (I hate weeding), but I really like this container gardening thing. If you’re interested in trying container gardening, The Finance Geek writes about Setting Up a Container Garden on a Budget.

Now we’ve reached the part where we welcome someone new to the Yakezie challenge. This week, we’re featuring Money Life and More. I really like this post from shortly before he joined Yakezie about Finding an Accountability Partner. It matters. And that’s one of the reasons Yakezie is so fabulous.

 

And finally, I can’t not mention that this week, I was honored to be awarded the Blog Post of the Week by Average Joe’s Money Blog. The list of people I wish to thank is so long the band is playing me off the stage before I even start. But rest assured, this award has already found an honored place in my home.

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We Loan Money to Family

Here’s the Deal

We are loaning my brother $3,000. I can hear all the financial bloggers screaming at their screens this very second “No, don’t do it!” “Never lend money to family!” “That’s a bad, bad idea.” And I suppose for some people, that is true. It’s never been true in my family.

Let’s start with the fact that Charles and I would not be where we are today if family had not been willing to lend us money. When we first moved to Seattle, with no jobs lines up, it didn’t take long for our savings to run out. We had jobs lines up, but a simple thing like the windshield wiper motor going out was beyond what we could handle. And in Seattle, in the fall, that’s kind of a necessary thing.

When we bought our first house, my mother loaned us some money so that we could pay for our carpet upgrades. She ended up gifting us that money as a wedding present, but we had fully planned to pay it back.

It’s also important to note that while I have no doubt my brother will pay us back, we could afford to be out that money. That’s part of why we chose that sum.

And, in my family, just because someone asks to borrow money, it doesn’t mean you are obligated to say yes. My brother asked, fully expecting me to say no. He did not ask for a set amount, just whatever- I think that $3k was also more than he was expecting.

 

Why We’re Doing It

I wrote last week about the fact that my brother’s business partner has turned out not to like being a business owner. He wants to be a boss, but not actually responsible for getting the work done. It is best for the business to buy him out as soon as possible. There is no point in having a partner who does not want to be involved.

My brother could put the majority of the buyout on a credit card, but at 10% interest, well, any little bit that could come from family helps.

And while I have faith in my brother and think he his chances of making a success at this business are pretty high, we’re not at a point where we want to be silent partners, so it’s a loan.

 

My One Requirement

I did put one stipulation on making the loan. I asked my brother to send me the books. Not because I was going to make my decision based on what they said, but because if he wants to go forward in business, in the future he’s going to have to get used to presenting his financial statements to professional lenders.

It was something he needed to do anyway, so me asking for it just meant it got done sooner- that he had a clearer picture of what the guest house’s financial status actually is.

 

The Pay Off Plan

My brother expects to pay us back in 6 months or less. Doing the books on the guest house, he actually thinks it might be able to pay us off in 3 months or less. We’re actually asking him not to do that. While paying off the credit card first would be better, he’s counting that as a business expense. But what we want him to do is take half of what he would pay us and put it in savings, creating a financial reserve of $3,000 at the same time he’s paying us back. Will $3k go super far if something goes really bad? Maybe not, but we all know that having any kind of emergency fund is a lot better than not having one at all.

 

So yes, we loaned my brother $3,000. And it’s no big deal.

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Lessons from the Other Side of the Tracks

I have thought hard about how to begin this post, as it is not really personal finance related, even though it is very personal and finances, as part of our American class system, do play a part. This is a post about our friend Russ, who died a few years ago of cancer. He was one of those rare friends who was in our lives for a reason, a season, and a lifetime, all at once.

 

How to Begin

I grew up solidly middle class. Even when my mother and I lived in low income housing, we were solidly middle class in our outlook on life. My mother made sure the low income housing she applied for was zoned for the best school in the district. I never lacked for anything I needed, and I was still required to save a percentage of all my babysitting money.

For most of my life, everyone I knew was also solidly middle classAmericanain their values and outlook on life. We held prejudices against people not with different skin colors but who made choices that did not make sense to us- choices where it seemed there was an obvious right answer, and they had chosen the wrong one.

I had these prejudices without even realizing it, mostly because I never really got to know anyone who was different from me in that sense.

Then I met Russ.

I have mentioned before that I am a gamer. I started dating a guy who was running a WarHammer FRP campaign, and I was invited to join the game. Russ was one of the other players.

 

An Alien Life

I was in my early 20s. Russ was in his late 30s. I was in college, dating the son of one of my former high school teachers, who also had a degree. I’m not certain Russ had even finished high school. He worked, intermittently, in construction.

I hated the taste of alcohol, had never tried any drugs. Russ was a former addict of multiple substances.

He was one of the most intelligent and self aware people I had ever met. During the course of that campaign, and subsequent ones with the same characters, our characters became very close and so did we.

I still remember the first real conversation we had, just the two of us. We were sitting outside the apartment where we held the game. I, at least, was waiting for the boyfriend to come pick me up. I do not remember why. I do not remember if Russ was waiting for him, too, or if he was just waiting with me. But we had over half an hour to talk.

I learned about his kids- his two daughters and his ex-wife’s older son, who he considered his, despite there being no blood relation. I learned that he and his wife had used together and struggled to get clean together and realized that being together was the main thing preventing them doing so.

They divorced. They both did their best to stay clean. They both sometimes failed. For Russ, this meant that he was not always working, that he did not always have a stable place to stay. It meant that he was not in a position in his life to have custody of his daughters, not even partial.

For his wife, it meant that sometimes she dated men who used, and she would start using again, too. When that happened, Russ would call child protective services himself. His girls would be taken away, put in foster care, and that sometimes meant he did not even get visitation, as the courts looked at the situation and worked with the family to make a plan that would allow the girls to return home.

 

Love and Faith

Russ loved his daughters absolutely. They were his world. He believed them capable of taking over the world or doing anything they put their minds to. He believed that until his dying day.

Russ did not just believe in his family. He believed in his friends. He would sometimes argue with me because he felt I dreamed too small.

When most kids watch the Oscars or the Grammys or any awards shows, they dream of being up there accepting the award. I never did. I always dreamed of being the first person thanked.

Russ understood that, but he also thought I needed to dream of my own spotlight. He would push, he would challenge.

And not just me. When C decided to take the MENSA test, timing dictated that he take it in the middle of a convention, where he was seeing Russ for the first time in years. Russ went with him and took the test, too, just as moral support.

When we were getting married, he got an invitation. He was not able to make it, but he sent a note saying that he was going to hold on to it and send our announcement back to us as a ten year anniversary gift. Because he believed in us and people, and he believed in us as a couple.

Russ died shortly after our 6th wedding anniversary.

I am FaceBook friends with his oldest daughter, who was 8 when I met her. She is now in her 20s, an amazing young woman, who could probably take over the world if she wanted to.

 

A Different Perspective

We have been doing a lot of training for the adoption. There is a lot of talk about why kids end up in foster care, and there is a frustration among potential foster and adoptive parents when it comes to kids who are in and out of the system. There is anger and a belief that the state should be more active in removing parental rights.

I understand the emotion behind the arguments. I get them completely. I would feel the exact same way if I had never known Russ, never seen him with his daughters. There is no way you could ever convince me that the state should have had power to remove his parental rights, even if he was not able to have custody. (And he did have custody of his older daughter during her teen years.)

None of us are perfect parents. Some are less perfect than others. But I hope, very much, that I can be as good of a parent as Russ was in the ways that are truly important. That no matter what, I will believe in my children; that no matter how hard it is for me, I will always do the right thing for them, and that I will be able to raise them to be strong, independent thinkers who know that someone thinks they are capable of taking over the world.

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Sunday Evening Post #41 (Monday Morning Edition)

Day

Amount

Place

Category

Monday

$48.22

Gas

Car

Tuesday

$25.72

Rx Dogfood

Pets

 

$5.46

Jack in the Box

Allowance

Wednesday

$24.69

Red Robin

Eating Out

Thursday

$23.07

Safeway

Groceries

 

$75.97

CostCo

Groceries

 

$193.76

Kinnect

Allowance

 

$16.41

Barnes & Noble

Allowance

Friday

$36.00

Larry- shots

Pets

 

$3,000.00

Loan to brother

Misc

Saturday

$31.80

Fred Meyer

House

 

$7.98

Trader Joes

Groceries

 

$6.00

Key Arena

Allowance

 

$35.00

Thai food

Eating Out

Sunday

$6.65

Starbucks

Allowance

I managed to spend money every single day this last week. That so needs to stop. Even though things like gas and getting the prescription dog food for Howie are needed, I can’t let feeling stressed and out of control about other things in my life be an excuse for letting myself be out of control with our spending.

Yes, we loaned my brother $3,000. There will be a post about this later this week.

Not counting the loan to my brother, we didn’t even spend all that much, especially when you consider that we still had a $100 gift card that paid for over half of the Kinnect and that J will be paying for the rest. But it’s not the amount that’s getting to me It’s the frequency.

Some spending decisions are not all me- we chose to go out Wednesday night. C is really the one who wanted the Kinnect on Thursday, and since we were out, we did our CostCo shopping that night. Larry needed his yearly shots- especially a rabies vaccine. Those things I can concede. Paying for dinner with a dear friend on Saturday and my regular Sunday Starbucks (though I should go back to regular tea instead of chai, it’s much cheaper) are, again, specific choices I make, and I am fine with those things.

So that really leaves two items that had me feeling out of control this week. Only two, and yet, they just make me mad at myself- On Tuesday, I had lunch in the fridge at work. There was no need for me to stop at Jack in the Box. I just did. Thursday morning I stopped at Safeway to pick up a condolence card for my former boss whose husband died last week. That part is fine. But then buying chips and snack food for my desk and a giant (though only $5) thing of peanut butter cookies for the office? Not needed

Good things about this week:

We got a Kinnect. It is tons of fun and will hopefully help us with this being more active thing.

I went to a FREE simulcast of Madama Butterfly on Saturday with one of my oldest friends. She and I had a great time out.

We got a LOT of work done on the basement. A number of bins got packed and labeled and made it into the attic. We have a donation pile. We’ve cleared out our file cabinet and have shredded most of the old paperwork that was in there so that we can file the newer paperwork we need to keep. We are throwing away a lot of stuff that never should have made the move from the last house with us. C and I both have a commitment to getting things done so that the house can pass the home inspection.

We’re looking at setting ourselves a deadline (since I’m a procrastinator and work best with deadlines), probably sometime in June.

I’m hoping that by focusing on the positives and the things I can control, I will be able to start feeling in control again.

 

Bloggers Give Back Update: I did my clicking for Greater Good and the FreeKibble sites, but did not volunteer at Sparked. We still have foster dog Howie and are moving forward on process of adopting a human child. We’re also doing a lot of cleaning up in the basement and putting together some more things to donate.

 

I have six goals for 2012. As part of the Sunday evening posts, I am tracking those goals, kind of like I do for spending, in order to hold myself accountable.

1)      Be paid for publishing one piece of fiction

Submissions so far: 2

Responses: 1 rejection 1 acceptance

I am getting very excited about the anthology I’m going to be published in.Readingthe galleys has just amped that up. And, this coming weekend, I’ll be at a retreat with my writers’ group, so more time to work on getting stuff done.

2)      Make money publishing my next art/fiction book

This is on hold for now. I’m hoping to get back to it in June.

3)      Attend FinCon12. Pay for the trip with money from allowance/side projects saved/earned BEFORE the conference starts. Goal: $600

My current balance is in the negatives. I have already bought the ticket to FinCon12.

I’m holding off on buying a plane ticket for now. I do believe I’ll end up with enough credit card points to get one without spending any money out of pocket.

4)      Become a member of Yakezie (6 month anniversary is Jan 21)

I plan to be a member of Epsilon class when the application goes up in August. I do need to make sure I’m still connecting with new challengers, though, because a lot of the challengers on my list this last time will be Yakezie Delta class members.

In order to develop relationships with new challengers, I have decided that each edition of What I’m Reading on Saturdays will now include a new challenger.

5)      Make money from my blogs.

AdSense earnings: $21.94 (They won’t send me any money until I hit $100)

6)      Be healthier

This has been a week of activity. Wednesday was dog park. Thursday we bought a Kinect and Dance Central. Friday we relaxed. Saturday was another dog park as well as putting bins in the attic (lots of lifting over my head- good exercise), plus I did a lot of walking on Saturday. Sunday was mowing the lawn and more work in the basement.

I’d say we ate healthy except that we went to Red Robin on Wednesday and had CostCo 4 meat pizza for dinner on Thursday. And Sunday we decided to get rid of all the old, stale tortilla chips we had by making nachos for dinner. So yeah, not really eating healthy this last week.

The big change I need to make this time of year is to drink more water- so that’s my goal this week- to drink at least one full water bottle’s worth of water every day at work, instead of having a second soda.

**As a note, I will be out of town next weekend, so next weekend’s Sunday Evening Post will also be a Monday morning edition.

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Sunday Evening Post Delayed Until Monday Morning

I am exhausted after a good but busy weekend, including much house and yard work today. And while thinks I might be addicted to blogging, I’m not. So the normal Sunday Evening post with spending for the last week will be posted Monday morning, so that I can do nothing for the rest of the evening and not worry about it.

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What I’m Reading: I’m Going to the Opera Edition

I’m going to a free simulcast of Madama Butterfly tonight. That means I have a to of things that have to get done early today, so not much time for chit chat (this has kind become a running theme- things will slow down once we finally get the house ready for the foster care license), so off we are to the blogs.

 

I always love when the House of Two Bows posts their monthly spending on the dogs. It makes me realize I am not crazy. And this month, there’s an added infographic for the lifetime costs of pets. Cool!

It’s May, why the heck is Suba talking about Christmas Eve over at Wealth Informatics? I actually really loved this post about how meeting one person can change your perspective on life. I had one of those people in mine. I think I feel and “inspired by” post coming on.

It’s spring time, and for some reason, that means lots of people start looking at buying houses, including our favorite dead president A Blinkin at funancials. Buying a house is more than list of pros and cons. Whether you believe it is the American Dream or not, it is still a definite lifestyle choice (as my weekends are proving).

In a manner that is completely timely for me, Money Crush asked us to do a Spending Spot-Check this week. The answer is, no, my spending isn’t really under control. All the needed big spending is leading to me doing little spending as stress relief. Time to get myself back on track.

You know I have a blog called 100 Words On…, right? I love micro-blogging (and micro-fiction), and I love it when other people do it, too. This morning, Maria from The Money Principle posted  100 words on minimalism– what a great topic.

And finally, in my goal to read more new blogs, and it introduce you to more blogs, I latest Yakezie challenger is iHeartBudgets, where last weekend, her water heater stopped working. The question becomes- is that an Emergency or Just a Minor Inconvenience?

 

I hope everyone has a great Saturday!

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My Brother’s New Venture: Attitude is Everything

Back in January, I wrote about My Brother’s New Venture. With his permission, I am now going to be writing a few more posts on the topic.

 

Do You Want to Own Your Own Business or Boss People Around?

Does this seem like a silly question to you? Do you think to yourself- Of course if I own the business, I’m the boss. If that’s the case, you might want to re-think entrepreneurship.

This is the problem my brother, E, and his partner are facing right now. His partner, who used to be a bartender, thought that buy owning his own business, he would get away from customer service. He thought that he could just be the boss and not actually have to do any of the work. Now, I know lots of people reading this are going to be rolling their eyes at his attitude, but think about it. How many people honestly understand all the work that goes into running their own business, and how many really just want to be able to boss other people around?

E is now in the process of buying his partner out. He has someone else who has been working for them as an employee who wants to buy in, but does not have the cash to do so at right now. They thought at first they could hold out until the employee had more cash, but the current partner is just too miserable and making everyone else miserable. When he walks through the property and sees something that needs to be done, he does not want to do it. He wants to find somebody else to tell to do it. But this does not quite work when the one employee is off shift and the other person around is supposed to be your equal partner.

He does not know what he will do once he is bought out. All he knows (and all E and the employee know) is that he is currently miserable and making everyone around him miserable. Better to get out now.

 

It is Different When It is Your’s

E, on the other hand, is loving being a business owner. He does not mind all the little bits of work that goes into it. He says that while at home, dishes may sit around in the drainer for days or weeks, but at the guest house, if he sees dishes that need to be put away, he just stops and does it. Earlier this week, he sat down and created financial spreadsheets for the business- a task he has never been willing to do for himself, but he really liked it. He even called me to tell me about it (since we had already talked about me blogging about this), because it was something he had never expected to enjoy.

You know how people with children always tell those who complain about kids “It’s different when they’re yours”? Well, apparently, the same thing applies to owning your own business, at least for some people. No matter how boring the task, or outside of your normal interests, when you’re doing it for your baby, it’s different.

My brother has always been willing to work hard- be it physical labor or mundane tasks. He just has not liked doing them for other people. Now that he is doing that work for himself, he loves it. He understands the risks of being a business owner. He is in the middle of dealing with one of those risks right now, but at the same time, he now cannot see himself ever working for anyone else again.

And I have to admit, I am pretty proud of my big brother, the small business owner.

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A Look at Unemployment

Why I Am Writing This

Late last June, a few weeks before I joined Yakezie, and right about the time we were receiving the last of C’s unemployment checks, I wrote In Defense of 99 Weeks of Unemployment. It was not a subject I really expected to revisit, but even though the unemployment rate and votes for emergency extensions of unemployment benefits are no longer part of the daily news cycle, it is still something that is obviously on people’s minds. In mid March, Funancials wrote Are the Unemployed Employable?. Later that month, Financial Samurai published a post written by his friend Rachel about What’s It Like Being Unemployed?

That post got 26 comments (not including replies), most of them nice, because Rachel gave an honest view of what it was like and because her story said what the readers wanted to hear. Despite receiving enough in benefits that her net income was not reduced and she experpienced no financial hardship, Rachel’s view of being unemployed matched what the readers themselves remembered from earlier bouts of unemployment, which means it fit what they perceived the “proper” reaction to unemployment should be.

Late last week, Sam posted a second article on the subject- The Best States for Unemployment: Would You Work If You Could Make $1,800 A Month Doing Nothing? Besides listing the ten states with the best unemployment benefits, this article featured the story of Julie, another friend of Sam’s (told in Sam’s words, though, not her own), who is reacting to unemployment in a way the readers do NOT approve of. It also reinforced their belief that all people who have received the full 99 weeks of unemployment were simply living it up on the government’s dime. That post is currently sitting at 24 comments (not including replies), most of them not nice, some of them down right diatribes.

 

Why I Do Not Think Julie is Evil, Cheating the System, or Behaving Unethically

I want to start by telling people that most of those on unemployment are much more like Rachel than they are like Julie. In fact, I would bet that, despite the entitlement attitude Sam presents Julie as having, Julie is much more like Rachel than she is like the picture painted in Sam’s post.

Why do I think this? Because I have seen the positive face the long term unemployed try to put on their position. Julie has been unemployed for over a year now. She is one of the lucky ones, who had a good job beforehand, and a family wealthy enough to help support her during this time. Yes, she’s selling her artwork under the table via Facebook and not reporting it. Guess what? She would be doing that if she had a job, too. Yes, she is going on a vacation while on unemployment. It is a vacation she can afford, and she is not trying to cheat the system. She tried to contact the unemployment office, and when she could not, came up with a plan to still file her weekly “claims”, correctly stating that she was NOT available and looking for work during those weeks.

Per Sam, Julie claims she is holding out for the perfect job, but has she actually turned down any offers? Since she is being honest about everything else, I have a hard time believing she has received a job offer and turned it down. Doing that does cause a person to lose their benefits. More likely, Julie is looking for another design job. That is logical. It is what she was doing before. It is what she is trained in. It is, in fact, exactly what the state unemployment office wants her to be looking for.

I can not speak specifically to California unemployment laws, but if it works anything like Washington, I can tell you that they do not want designers applying for admin jobs. They do not want former managers applying for entry level positions. They want people applying for appropriate positions based on their skills, training, and experience level. When C got audited by the unemployment office, that was one of the things they were specifically checking for.

In Washington, you are expected to make three job contacts a week. For most people, that means a minimum of three job applications per week, but it is not written that way specifically because for some jobs, there just are not going to be three job openings in a week. In those cases (and I would expect a specialized position like Julie’s former one falls into this category), they are asked to reach out to companies that might have that kind of position, or talk to their contacts and networks.

However you parse it though, getting three job contacts a week, whether it is phone calls to a company or sending in applications, does not take that much time. It leaves people on unemployment with a lot of time on their hands. Julie has chosen to spend that time doing things she enjoys, keeping herself happy and her feelings of self-esteem and self-worth high.

I actually think that bugs a lot of people. They want the long term unemployed to feel worthless, to feel like they are maggots feeding off a dying system. I think the idea is that if someone feels worthless without a job, they will work harder to get a job. We believe depression is the appropriate response to being affected by an economic depression/recession.

I can tell you from much experience, people who are depressed, who feel worthless, do not look harder for a job. In fact, they stop looking altogether, because they do not feel like getting a job is even within their grasp anymore. In addition, depressed people are actually less likely to get hired. Think about it- all interviewers look at attitude, which attitude would you rather have in your office?

 

Using the System the Way it was Built to be Used is not Fraud, Waste, or Abuse

Julie is not responsible for the system she finds herself in. Unemployment is determined differently by each state. It is not her fault that some people are unable to collect unemployment despite having paid into it. It is not her fault that our government views small business owners differently than it does employees of any sort. That is one of the risks that small business owners take on (and should be aware of) when they go into business for themselves.

We do not means test those receiving unemployment. We place a limit on how much any single person can collect each week and over time, but we do not require them to disclose their savings and investments in order to qualify. We do not ask them their family’s financial situation and if they will be receiving monetary support from that family. That is not the way unemployment is built.

People are not abusing unemployment by taking the money even when they do not need it. Fraud, waste, and abuse laws are very specific. They require people to be lying to the system and taking advantage of loopholes that make the system work in a way it was not intended. Using the system exactly as it was built, as it was intended to work, is not abusing it.

People on unemployment are allowed to take vacations, as long as they properly report that they are not looking for work during that time. We cancelled a vacation we had planned, not because of unemployment, but because C was actually temporarily employed at the time, working for the Census. Taking the vacation would have resulted in him losing the Census job and therefore unemployment because it would have been tantamount to him turning down a job offer. But if he had not been working, yes, we would have taken the vacation and simply not collected unemployment for those weeks.

You can think we abused the system because after a year, we did not “need” unemployment to get by, though it would have been very tight. After 15 months of unemployment, I got a new job, with a 33% raise, and then, we did not even need unemployment to live comfortably. We still took it. And we used that money to pay down debt and to build up savings.

The last 6 months C was on unemployment, we both secretly hoped that he would not get a job. We had put together a new plan. But he still looked for work. He still applied for jobs- and not just three a week. Even slow weeks, he applied for around ten jobs.

For us, unemployment worked exactly as it was supposed to. It was a safety net that allowed us to meet our financial obligations when we experienced a sudden loss of income. The 26 months we received benefits (stretched out by the Census work) gave us the chance to build our own safety net.

We are among the lucky ones, different than Julie, but lucky none the less. We came out of unemployment financially better off than when we went in. There is no way that would have been possible without unemployment, or with even 6 months of unemployment. We needed a full year at the least.

I think it is also important to mention here that 99 weeks of unemployment is not the standard. Everyone who gets laid off does not automatically qualify for 99 weeks of unemployment. The standard is about 25 weeks of unemployment (roughly 6 months). The 99 weeks came from emergency systems that are in place for when state and federal unemployment rates get too high. As of September of 2011, no one in Washington state is eligible for 99 weeks of unemployment anymore because our state unemployment rate dropped below 9%.

The 99 weeks system has been in place in our country for years and years, but no one ever thought about it because we were not in the emergency position to need it. However, it worked exactly as it was intended to, giving extra support to laid off workers at a time when our economy was losing jobs at record rates.

 

Only People Who Are Lazy Are Unemployed

This is probably the thing that bugs me the most when I see it- the assumption people make that because when they were unemployed back in early 2002 (post 9/11 recession) it did not take them more than a few months to get a new job, anyone currently unemployed longer than they were must be lazy, must be taking advantage of the system and not looking for work.

In January of 2002, unemployment in Washingtonstate was at 7.4%, the highest it had been since 1993. When C got laid off in May 2009, it was at 9.4%. It went up to 10.2% in the first quarter of 2010. It has been slowly dropping off since then, but it took until September 2011 before it got back down to 9%, and as of March 2012, it was sitting at 8.3%. (Numbers courtesy of Google.)

It is hard to get a job when that many people are looking for work. And remember, C dropped off the official rolls of the unemployed in July 2011 when he stopped receiving benefits. How many more people are like him?

California is an even starker picture than Washington. January 2002 saw an unemployment rate of 6.5%, which was nothing compared to their 1993 rate of 9.8%. But by May 2009, it was up to 11.2%. It peaked at 12.4% a couple times in 2010, and even as of March 2012, the unemployment rate in California is sitting at 11%. (Numbers again courtesy of Google.)

How easy do you really think it is to find work when roughly 1/10 of the people in California are looking for jobs?

The job search site maintained by the state employment office here in Washington told you how many people had viewed a job. Some jobs were looked at upwards of 1,000 times. No, not all of those views turned into applications, but still, when, within 8 hours of a job being posted, if it was looked at 1,000 times, how many applications do you think that amounted to?

I ended up with the theory that if you did not see a job posting within the first hour of it going up, or if you were not in the first 200 applications that arrived, your resume was probably not even looked at.

I have said before and I will say again- in 26 months of looking for work- actively looking for work, applying for anywhere from 10-50 jobs a week – C got two interviews. Stop and think about that. Two years, two interviews.

This was not because he was lazy. He got held over for a second round of Census work that he technically did not have the seniority to get because of his amazing work ethic and the quality of his work.

He was not interviewed because employers were not looking at his resume, or he was not what they wanted. He did not have a Bachelor’s degree, but he had 10+ years of experience. Employers decided that for the administration work he excelled at (he had been a sales administrator), they wanted people with BAs and no experience. They could pay them peanuts and treat them like crap.

Could he have been applying for retail positions, fast food, or sign holder on a street corner? I suppose, but anything that paid him less than unemployment would have put us in an even more precarious financial position, at least for the first year. And after that, we would not have needed the income, so why take a job from someone who really did need it?

Moving for a job for him certainly was not worth it, as I was (and am) the primary breadwinner, and my job was stable and provided good benefits. For a lot of people, moving for the possibility of a new job is not worth the risk of being that far away from their support networks, even if they do not have a family to think about.

Yes, some places, like North Dakota, have low unemployment rates for the moment. Having lived in eastern Montana for 13 years though, you really could not pay me enough to move back to that part of the country. And to go along with it, they are not hiring people like C or Julie. They are hiring 18-25 year old single young men to work in the oil fields. Just because someplace has a booming economy, that does not mean it has jobs for everyone.

It has also been demonstrated, over and over again, that employers prefer to hire those who are already employed. You would think that there would be benefits to hiring someone who could start tomorrow, instead of a person that has to give anywhere from two weeks to a month’s notice, but that just is not the case. Much like with animals in shelters and children in foster care, the majority of those currently unemployed ended up there through no fault of their own. They were laid off. Not having a job is not, in any way, a comment on their actual work ethic or abilities. And yet, again, just like animals in shelters and kids in foster care, society assumes they are there because they are damaged goods, that something must be wrong with them, otherwise, why would they be unemployed? The realities of the situation do not outweigh our long held prejudices, even if they are based on incorrect assumptions.

This is actually one of our reasons for C going back to school. When he starts applying for jobs again, he will have been a student for the last 5+ years (current estimates are that it will be 9 years total from when he went back to school full time to his PhD). Being a student is something that employers understand. It is a state of existing that makes sense to them. They know what a student has been doing (or at least assume they do), whereas they do not understand what an unemployed person could have been doing for all that time.

Last I heard, there was a plan to make it illegal to discriminate against people based on their employment status. That’s great, but just like you can always find a supposedly non-racist reason not to hire a person of color (I just don’t think they’ll be a good fit for our team), most employers will continue to prefer people who are currently employed over those who are not. Their natural reason will be that the employed person’s skills are more up to date.

 

No One Asked for This

Being a member of the long term unemployed is scary. It is depressing. It can destroy your mental and physical health. In our current economy (I do not care how much you hate that phrase, it is different than it has been at any previous time in my working life), being unemployed is rarely a commentary on the worker. It is simply a matter of fact for close to 10% of our adult population. We need to stop judging those who are unemployed; we need to stop questioning their motives; we need to stop vilifying those who are simply looking for the job that matches their training, skills, and experience. Unemployment has a few million different looks right now. Just because it does not look the way you think it should, does not mean the person (or people) is behaving illegally or even unethically.

Yes, some people are. Some people always are. That’s a fact of the human condition. But I do not assume every college fraternity member is a rapist, or even a sexist pig, despite the fact that some of them are. We need to not judge any group by the worst among them, because then, none of us would be spared.

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Sunday Evening Post #40

Day

Amount

Place

Category

Monday

$14.73

Safeway

Groceries

$26.00

Nails

Allowance

Wednesday

$10.00

Admin Day

Allowance

$67.00

Admin Day

Allowance

$16.83

Safeway

Groceries

Friday

$105.00

Legal Fee

MIL

$112.00

Buca di Beppo

Eating Out

$7.81

Cafeteria

Allowance

$59.00

Gas

Car

Saturday

$111.00

CostCo

Groceries

$28.00

Home Depot

House

Sunday

$13.00

Target

Allowance

$8.00

PetsMart

Pets

So while we didn’t spend as much this week as we did last week, it was not a low spending week.

The legal fee was for posting a notice to creditors in a court approved publication for the MIL’s estate.

Wednesday was Admin Professionals day, and as the Administrative Programs manager, I felt it important that I do something for my admin as well as other admins in the department. That comes out of my allowance.

Wednesday, C & J also finished building our new garden shed. The timing was perfect as that evening, we had a 10 minute typhoon. It was actually bad enough that we did have some water come up in the basement, right in the elbow of the drainage pipe we had laid. But it wasn’t much, and it’s in an area where no damage can be done, so I’ okay with that.

On Saturday, we bought some more plants for our container garden. I’m pretty excited about having my own tomatoes and bell peppers this year to go along with our basil and rosemary.

The competed garden shed

I have six goals for 2012. As part of the Sunday evening posts, I am tracking those goals, kind of like I do for spending, in order to hold myself accountable.

1)      Be paid for publishing one piece of fiction

Submissions so far: 2

Responses: 1 rejection 1 acceptance

I have the galleys for the piece I had accepted sitting in my inbox. I need to review and make sure there are not mistakes, and then I also need to read the other entries and vote for a “Contributor’s Favorite”. I’m actually really excited about this, and you can bet you will all know when the anthology is published.

I also finally got a new post up over at The Prose Passage, about the value I got out of my critique at NorWesCon.

2)      Make money publishing my next art/fiction book

This is on hold for now. However, I did have a chance to talk with the artist I want to work with on Friday, and her life has settled down, so there’s a good chance we can start work on this sometime in May. (When my life settles down a bit.)

3)      Attend FinCon12. Pay for the trip with money from allowance/side projects saved/earned BEFORE the conference starts. Goal: $600

I have no idea what my current allowance balance is at.

Plane ticket prices have gone up, so right now, with credit card points, it would cost about $50 out of pocket for me to buy my ticket to FonCon. However, we’re still putting quite a bit on the card each month, and I don’t expect prices will go up much from where they are, and might even go back down again. (Sweet spot for prices out of Seattle tends to be around 4-6 weeks before the flight.) So for now, I’m still holding off on booking the plane ticket.

Our new strawberries, in one of the free flower boxes we picked up last weekend

4)      Become a member of Yakezie (6 month anniversary is Jan 21)

I plan to be a member of Epsilon class when the application goes up in August. I do need to make sure I’m still connecting with new challengers, though, because a lot of the challengers on my list this last time will be Yakezie Delta class members.

In order to develop relationships with new challengers, I have decided that each edition of What I’m Reading on Saturdays will now include a new challenger.

5)      Make money from my blogs.

AdSense earnings: $21.94 (They won’t send me any money until I hit $100.) Views on this blog (and all my blogs) have been going down lately, and I know that’s because I haven’t been as active on twitter or commenting in the last few months. As I pick up my activity I expect activity here will pick up and my AdSense income will pick up, at least a few cents or so.

6)      Be healthier

Monday I had an appointment for an ultrasound on my thyroid. It turns out I have two thyroid nodules, one on each side. There is very little chance they are malignant, but I have to go back for an ultrasound assisted biopsy in mid-May. Fun, fun, fun.

My memory of what we ate most of the week is sketchy. I’m pretty sure there were lots of leftovers. We are trying to cut down on our prepackaged food (mostly eaten for weekend lunches) and therefore specifically did not by any of our favorites at CostCo this weekend. We had pot stickers for lunch on Saturday and Mac & Cheese today. We also bought organic spinach and more of their fruit and nut mix to have for snacking around the house.

I know I didn’t eat healthy for lunch on Wednesday, as I took my admin to Cheesecake Factory for lunch, and on Friday we ate at Buca di Beppo for all of the March and April birthdays in our group.

Exercise wise, I didn’t do much this week. This weekend was a different story, though. On Saturday we took the dogs to the dog park and I mowed the front and back yards. Today, Larry dog and I joined some friends on a 90 minute hike along the Hobart Ridge trail.

bell pepper in the back, apple mint, Greek oregano, and bee balm in the flower box