The Dog Ate My Wallet

The Dog Ate My Wallet

Personal Finance in a World of Excuses

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The Dilemma of the Raise

I’m getting a raise: I got the official paperwork today and the extra money will be on the paycheck I get on April 27. Also on that check will be the 1% increase toward my retirement savings. I do this purposely so that I never miss that extra 1%. It comes at the same time as my average 3% raise (this year it’s 3.75%), so I see extra money on my check and extra money goes to my 403(b). I consider that a win/win.

I should have about $120/month extra in take home pay. So the question becomes, of course, what to do with that “extra” money.

Put it in Savings: My first inclination is to stick it straight into savings. That helps cover adoption costs and the raise in tuition for C that we know we will see next year. At the same time, April was our final payment on the basement work we had done (to prevent flooding), and we’re already going to be putting an extra $400 in savings every month starting in May. That is earmarked for home improvement work, like replacing all of our windows this summer. However, we already have some money earmarked for this, and I’m just not certain that it will need the full extra $3,200 we will be saving. That means some of that money could go toward tuition and adoption expenses.

Or Pay Down Debt: My other thought was to apply $50 or $100 more per month toward our existing debt- which is only my student loans and the mortgage. The mortgage is our highest interest debt (at 6%), but with 23 years still to go on the loan term, I just don’t see putting the extra money there as a timely enough benefit for it to matter right now.

Instead, I looked at putting the money toward my student loans. If we paid $50/month extra on my student loans starting in May, it would knock 6 months off the repayment period. At first, 6 months did not seem like it was really worth it to me, but then I looked at the dates. Paying off the loans 6 months earlier means they are paid off in mid 2016 instead of early 2017. If we get a child born this year, 2017 will be the year he/she starts kindergarten, and having an extra 6 months to save for private school tuition seems like a good thing.

And then there is the math. Adding $50/month to the pay off of my student loans, it will take us 53 months (as opposed to 59) to pay everything off. That is $2,650 that would otherwise go straight to savings. Currently, we pay $710/month toward student loans. Cutting that short by six months would save us $4,260 (not counting the $50 extra/month). That’s a real savings of $1,610. Even over 4+ years, I can’t get that kind of interest return on $2,650 put in to savings.

So if $50/month was good, I wondered what $100/month extra toward my loans would look like. Well, that would cut another 4 months off the repayment time. So that means for a cost of $4,900, we would save $7,100, for a real savings of $2,200.

Shared Decision Making: Both of those seem like excellent investments. And yet, I’m still not certain I wouldn’t rather hedge our bets with adoption costs, tuition, and home improvement.

And that’s the reason I’ll be sitting down with C tonight and looking at the numbers, and we’ll make the decision together.

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Sunday Evening Post #37

Day

Amount

Place

Category

Tuesday

$54.00

Gas

Car

$7.00

Cafeteria

Allowance

Wednesday

$23.00

Doctor

Medical

$3.00

McDs

Allowance

Thursday

$16.50

Safeway

Groceries

$2,329.00

Tuition

School

Friday

$7.00

Cafeteria

Allowance

$70.00

NorWesCon

Allowance

Saturday

$7.50

Safeway

Groceries

$120.00

Cremation Urn

MIL

Sunday

$3.50

Starbucks

Allowance

$41.50

Gas

Car

High spending week because of paying C’s tuition. It still makes me feel rich to be able to cash flow that. I also finally remembered to purchase the cremation urn we’d picked out for his mom.

Other than that, it was little spending here and there (well, and gas for both cars). We did not even get a chance to really grocery shop because I forgot that CostCo is closed on Easter. Being that we are not religious, it is something I just forget about. So we’ll do our major grocery shopping probably on Wednesday this week.

The $70 for NorWesCon was planned. I submitted some fiction to be critiqued there (to see how that went, read A Critique of a Critique over at The Prose Passage), and decided to pay for a full weekend pass. I don’t know that it was worth the full $70, but it was a planned expense.

Saturday night, we went to a friend’s house for an informal Seder (Passover dinner, usually done on Friday, but since she works, she prefers to do Saturday). We always have a good time and feel blessed to be included in their family events.

We avoided spending money this weekend by “stealing” the mattress we bought for my cousin. We went to rotate our old mattress and memory foam topper and realized that somehow moister had gotten between the bottom of the mattress and the wood of our captain’s bed, and there was mold. We decided to throw out our mattress and use this one. We have another queen size memory foam mattress that isn’t firm enough for us in our basement. We’ll get a mattress bag and borrow J’s truck to drive it down to my cousin sometime in the next couple of weeks, still giving her a mattress, just not the one we’d bought for her. (And in the process, we will be clearing my house of multiple extraneous mattresses, which I am extremely happy about.)

Finally Spring -my weeping cherry blossom tree is in bloom

Bloggers Give Back Update: Again, I did my clicking for Greater Good and the FreeKibble sites, but did not volunteer at Sparked. However, we donated a LOT of stuff to Goodwill and Value Village during March. And, of course, we still have foster dog Howie and are moving forward on process of adopting a human child.

 

I have six goals for 2012. As part of the Sunday evening posts, I am tracking those goals, kind of like I do for spending, in order to hold myself accountable.

1)      Be paid for publishing one piece of fiction

Submissions so far: 2

Responses: 1 rejection 1 acceptance

I need to get back to searching for markets for my already completed pieces.

2)      Make money publishing my next art/fiction book

This is on hold for now. I did, however, start a new website called The Prose Passage, which is focused on writing and critique. As of now, I haven’t added an AdSense to it, but I probably will.

3)      Attend FinCon12. Pay for the trip with money from allowance/side projects saved/earned BEFORE the conference starts. Goal: $600

My current balance is $45. I have already bought the ticket to FinCon12.

Our credit card points were being doubled or something for February and March. If we have another month or two like those, I will be able to pay for my entire plane ticket with credit card points. As it stands, right now I could buy a ticket with points and only $70 out of pocket.

4)      Become a member of Yakezie (6 month anniversary is Jan 21)

I plan to be a member of Epsilon class when the application goes up in August. I do need to make sure I’m still connecting with new challengers, though, because a lot of the challengers on my list this last time will be Yakezie Delta class members.

5)      Make money from my blogs.

AdSense earnings: $20.42 (They won’t send me any money until I hit $100)

6)      Be healthier

I ate salad for dinner Monday and Tuesday, and had salad with dinner on Wednesday and Thursday. We use fresh spinach as our greens, so it’s pretty nutrient packed. I had jambalaya for lunch most of the week. Wednesday we made chili and Friday J made enchiladas again.

Spring finally decided to show up in Seattle on Friday, and we’ve gone to the dog park for three days in a row. Saturday and Sunday we were able to walk full circuits without too much brambling from June and Larry.

I mowed our back and side yards on Saturday and Sunday, as well.

C is taking a combination creative writing/interpretive dance class this quarter (it’s wacky, we know), and we both agree we need to start doing the Wii fit again to get ourselves in slightly better shape.

Our apple trees and wild rose bushes are starting to bud, as well

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What I’m Reading: Back in the Saddle Edition

I finally had some time toward the end of this week to sit down and catch up on all the blogs I read. It was really nice. Things are still a little crazy, but definitely calming down. Anyway, here are some of my favorite posts from this week. (And the way my mind finds them to be all related, which trust me, doesn’t always make sense to me, either.)

Once she bucked me off and I bit three holes in my tongue. My father made me get back in the saddle a few days later, though

I like to remind folks that financial bloggers and pet bloggers often have quite a bit in common, especially when it comes to pet expenses. I love it each month when the House of Two Bows posts The Cost of Things.

Speaking of what things cost. Money for College Project gives us a fabulous infographic about What You Need to Know Before Studying Abroad, since it definitely costs a little more than staying home.

Super Frugalette is staying home, right now though, because she just recently had a baby. But lucky for her, she’s still able to do some coupon shopping- for Coach bags! Congrats on the baby, and the new bag.

American Debt Project is not going to be buying new bags anytime soon. In fact, she’s Wading into the Frugal Deep End, and enjoying it there. I don’t know that I could live a Spartan lifestyle, but more power to you if you can (and be happy about it).

And while not wishing the poor house on anyone, Money Beagle actually doesn’t wish some success on anyone- not even his friends.  Sounds harsh, I know, but I have to agree with him. I wouldn’t want any of my friends to fall into a sex, drugs, and early death lifestyle, either.

And finally, speaking of death, Marie at Family Money Values asks- Should You Share Your Financial Situation with Your Children? Having been through our recent experience, my answer is yes, or at least some of it, at least enough of it, that should anything happen to you- you become unable to make financial decisions for yourself, your kids know enough to pay the bills, to file the insurance claims, etc. This is NOT an easy conversation to have, but it’s a must.

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Throw It Out the Window

The Budget: Our monthly eating out budget is $150. We’re currently averaging $132/month. Of course, we’ve already spent over $100 on eating out in April. Okay, that’s not true, we spent that $100 in March, but I’m paying the credit card bill in April and that’s when it gets counted. I’ll admit I’ve been inconsistent, sometimes paying for meals out with the credit card and sometimes with the debit card, so that’s kind of confused things, but still, we’re currently under our budget, so things are good.

Well, they won’t be come the end of May. Our eating out will blow up in April. Some of that will be paid in cash. Some will be put on the credit card and moved to the May budget. It doesn’t matter. We’ll be over budget by the end of May. And you know what, that’s okay.

Planning to Break the Budget: It’s okay for a couple of reasons. First, January’s eating out total was $265, but that included the $128 from my birthday dinner in December that was put on the credit card. In February and March, even with all the stress of everything going on with the MIL, we spent $74 and $84 respectively on eating out. (Okay, plus another hundred, but really, that’s counted as part of April.)

The second reason this is okay is because I plan for it. This is not a random thing. It happens every April, just like my birthday dinner happens every December. You see, we have lots of friends who have birthdays in April, so we plan one giant dinner out at a local restaurant. We have it down pretty good- everyone brings $30 for food and tip. You pay for your own drinks. In general, we have enough to leave a generous tip. But sometimes we don’t. And because we’re organizing it (and I’m the one setting the set amount folks should bring based on menu prices), if we’re short, we’ll pay the extra. So we’re in for a minimum of $60 there and possibly more.

In addition, J has a specific different place he wants to eat on his birthday. We’ll be joining him for that. It’s a small Mexican place. Still, for two of us, I’m guessing $35 including tip.

And lastly, for 10 days this month (Sun-Thurs, April 8-19), it’s Seattle Restaurant Week. (It used to last only 5 days. I’m thrilled they expanded it.) During this event, we can go get three courses at a number of super fabulous eateries around Seattle for $28 each. The restaurants offer limited menus for Seattle Restaurant Week, but they are still really good. And these are places where just your entrée would normally cost $28, not to mention the appetizer and dessert. We almost always go out a couple times during this event. Including tip, that’s $65 per time we go out.

How Much?: So there we have it. We’ve already spent $100 of the $300 we have in eating out allowance between April and May. We have at least another $160 of eating out planned, and possibly $225, taking us to a minimum spend of $260 long before we even reach May.

And none of this even takes into account that we went out to dinner on Tuesday, but J paid for us.

 

April is always an expensive eating out month for us. I plan for it, which means I don’t have to worry about breaking the bank, even if I’m going over budget for the month.

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End of Quarter Budget Review

Gas is Expensive!: With a full quarter of the year gone, it’s time for a quick budget review. The area where I seem most off so far this year is on car expenses. I budgeted $190/month, to include paying for insurance and setting money aside for repairs. Right now, I look at this and think “where did I come up with my numbers?” Insurance itself is over $100/month, even though we pay every 6 months. That would leave less than $90 for gas each month. In the last two weeks, I’ve spent $120 on gas. How did I think maintenance fees were coming out of that, as well?

Now, I’ll admit that one of those fill ups included an extra 7.5 gallons in the gas cans, but still, it’s getting ridiculous. This morning, I paid $4.19/gallon for regular unleaded. At least our B99 has remained steady all winter at $4/gallon, even as regular diesel as jumped around.

That’s right, it is now cheaper for me to fill up my expensive TDI VW on B99 bio-diesel than it is to put a tankful of regular unleaded in my old Chevy. One of the reasons we went with the diesel and chose bio-diesel (besides being better for the environment) was that the price, while more expensive, was less volatile. I guess it’s an added bonus now that it’s actually cheaper, and still less volatile.

Making Changes: All this complaining aside, it means I need to rejigger my budget. Luckily, I’m getting a raise that will show up on my April 27 paycheck, and we finished paying off the basement work this month. To top it off, we don’t owe insurance again until September and are not moving all that quickly toward another service on the VW (also expensive). We replaced tires on both cars last year, so shouldn’t have that expense anytime soon, either.

But $190/month is not cutting it. I think I may need to raise it to $250.

On a bright note, we’re spending slightly less than budgeted on groceries and eating out, and I’m pretty much right on target with C’s school costs.

Glad I'm not paying to heat this place

Blogger’s Note (aka I’m an idiot):

I wrote this post, and then thought – hey wouldn’t it be great if I linked back to my original 2012 budget planning. Imagine my surprise when I looked at my plan and realized that $190 was my car budget/month in 2011, and that my plan was to budget $350/month in 2012.

I know I figured my automatic savings based off the spreadsheet I created that post from, and it included the amount “extra” I thought needed to go into savings for insurance and car repair. We’ve been saving that amount each month without an issue.

So apparently, I just forgot to update my budgeted amount on the spreadsheet where I track actual spending. And since I budgeted $350/month, we’re actually doing fabulous on our car budget.

Now I just have to wonder what else I forgot to update.

Time for a closer review of my spreadsheets tomorrow.

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Sunday Evening Post #36

Day

Amount

Place

Category

Monday

$60.00

Death Certificates

MIL

Wednesday

$28.34

PetsMart

Pets

Friday

$4.59

Safeway

Groceries

$192.92

CostCo

Groceries

$7.25

Safeway

Groceries

Saturday

$31.61

Safeway

Groceries

It was a mostly quiet week. On Monday, I went into work for just a couple of hours and then took the rest of the day off. We went to the county and got 3 copies of the death certificate, so that we could do things like file life insurance claims.

Wednesday evening, we went to PetsMart, mostly to pick up some socks for Howie. He has an old injury on a foot that he keep licking and not letting heal, so we figured some socks would cover it up. We have since cut the toes off the socks and now put them on backwards (with the elastic at the bottom) so they are more like legwarmers. It prevents him from licking the old wound and is harder for him to remove than when they were socks. The socks were only $5, but we were out of duck jerky, so we picked up a couple bags of that, as well.

The Friday and Saturday trips to Safeway are typical of when C is cooking. He is always forgetting something he needs. He decided to make jambalaya, which is a three day cook, starting with making his own stock. The first trip was for celery and onions. The second trip was for bread was not jambalaya related, but we decided to have burgers for dinner and realized we had no bread. I also picked up some tomatoes and croutons to go with the giant bag of spinach we bought at CostCo. Saturday, C realized we didn’t have a habanero for the jambalaya, so I went back for that and took advantage of the sale they were having on Coke.

The Friday CostCo trip included two bags of dog food, two boxes of breakfast shakes, and a bottle of vitamin D. Very exciting stuff.

 

yummmm - homemade jambalaya

I have six goals for 2012. As part of the Sunday evening posts, I am tracking those goals, kind of like I do for spending, in order to hold myself accountable.

1)      Be paid for publishing one piece of fiction

Submissions so far: 2

Responses: 1 rejection 1 acceptance

Next weekend, I will be attending a convention for which I submitted the beginning chapters of my novella. On Friday evening, I will meet with a panel of experts who will critique my work. I am excited and very nervous.

2)      Make money publishing my next art/fiction book

This is on hold for now. I did, however, start a new website called The Prose Passage, which is focused on writing and critique. As of now, I haven’t added an AdSense to it, but I probably will.

3)      Attend FinCon12. Pay for the trip with money from allowance/side projects saved/earned BEFORE the conference starts. Goal: $600

My current balance is $45. I have already bought the ticket to FinCon12.

Our credit card points were being doubled or something for February and March. If we have another month or two like those, I will be able to pay for my entire plane ticket with credit card points. As it stands, right now I could buy a ticket with points and only $70 out of pocket.

4)      Become a member of Yakezie (6 month anniversary is Jan 21)

I plan to be a member of Epsilon class when the application goes up in August. I do need to make sure I’m still connecting with new challengers, though, because a lot of the challengers on my list this last time will be Yakezie Delta class members.

5)      Make money from my blogs.

AdSense earnings: $20.42 (They won’t send me any money until I hit $100)

6)      Be healthier

The weather was cruddy this week, so only one trip to the dog park on Saturday.

On Monday night, we had left over pork and bell pepper. On Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday, we had arroz con pollo. Friday was burgers and fries, Saturday was salad and pizza. Today was jambalaya.

I will probably have a salad a little later, too, as we ate the jambalaya around 4:30pm.

pork and bell pepper over rice

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What I’m Reading: Small Sample Size Edition

Every time I think that maybe, just maybe, I’m getting back on track, I realize that there is something I’ve not done. This week, it felt like I was moving right along, until I realized that I’ve barely read or commented on any blogs this week.

For that I apologize.

But even though I didn’t do my usual level of reading, I really liked what I did read. So yes, it’s a small sample size this week, but still with great results.

a small sample of the megalithic art at the Knowth Passage Tomb, Boyne Valley, Ireland

Alyosa over at My Broken Coin did a three part series on the fact that her Mother was a Mail-Order Bride (link is to the first article). I always find it interesting to get stories like this from people who actually lived it.

C lives with depression. The MIL suffered from it greatly (without her Zoloft, she spent the entire day drying, for no reason). With C, we manage it without medication, but we have an agreement- if I tell him he needs to go see a doctor about it, he will go see a doctor about it. This week, Jana at Daily Money Shot stepped out to show us what depression looks like. Part of her point was to let others know they weren’t alone. I just want to let her know, she’s not alone. She is brave and talented, and I count myself blessed to be able to call her “friend”.

Financial Samurai had a guest post from Rachel about what it is like to be unemployed long term. Again, I haven’t experienced this exactly, but C spent the full 99 weeks on unemployment before going back to school full time, so I have an idea what it is like. Thank you, Rachel, for putting yourself out there, and sharing your side of the story.

My parents are baby boomers, and for goodness sakes, I would much rather they spent “my inheritance” (because it’s not really mine, it’s their money that they worked for) living life comfortably than suffering now to leave me something. The Money Principle talks about the Baby Boomers and the Generation Divide. And I just want to say, no generation is perfect, because it is made up of people. Some will make decisions we can all be proud of, and some will make decisions future generations will rue them for. Good and bad have come from every generation, and the best we can do is learn from their mistakes and thank them for their successes.

I’ve said before that I am a flaming feminist. What I mean by that is that I believe in equality, for all. Well Heeled Blog recently read an article where she saw the comment “Women should have the choice to stay home or work”, and she railed against it- for good cause. Because while she and I both agree with the statement, we both also believe it would be better stated that families should be able to make the choice that works best for their situation.

And finally, recently Jeff from Sustainable Life Blog and his fiancé recently purchased a home– with only a 15 year note! I want to congratulate them on their first big purchase together and for having their finances together enough to be able to do the shortened term. Can I tell you two something? C and I purchased our home about 6 weeks before our wedding. After the wedding, everyone asked me if it felt “different” being married, and I had to say “no”, because while we had just pledged our lives together, not too long before, we’d signed our finances away for 30 years to the bank. And those 30 years felt longer than “forever”.

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My Very First Time

I need a break from serious topics at the moment, and I love the “getting to know you” type posts where bloggers give a list of things about themselves that we don’t already know. At the same time, I’m not certain I could really give you that kind of list, because I’m pretty open about things. Most things that I could think of to put on that kind of list, I’m pretty certain I’ve already mentioned elsewhere. And while I could to an “interesting things about me” recap post, I also decide that would be too much work.

Instead, I want to tell you the story of my first credit card purchase.

the coloring book I tried to throw out this weekend, but that C "saved"

Applying: I was in college. I really had no intention of getting a credit card. My older brother was already in over his head, and I didn’t want that to be me. But then the day came when I iddn’t even have the $1.06 for breadsticks from the Pizza Hut in our student union. I was really hungry, and this one credit card was giving away large bags of M&Ms.

I had avoided cards giving away t-shirts and baseball caps and Frisbees, but I was hungry, and these were large bags of peanut (protein!) M&Ms.

I signed up for the card.

Activating: When I got the card, I let it just sit there on my end table. After all, I had no intention of using it. I’d just needed the food. But then came the January day when I decided to ride along with a couple friends as we drove another friend back to school in Ashland, from Reno. Let’s look at that plan again- up 395, though Susanville and some state parks, on narrow windy roads, then to I-5 and Ashland. In January. And we were driving back the same day. (By the way, due to weather, we came back I-5 to Sacramento and then I-80 back to Reno, which, even while much more likely to be plowed, does require going over Donner pass.) Given the circumstances of the trip, I decided it would be prudent to activate my card. This was certainly a situation where an honest emergency need could come up, which was, as far as I was concerned, the only real reason to use a credit card- an emergency.

Off we went on the trip, the credit card secure in my wallet.

I did not use the card on that trip. It was not needed. But I did not move the card out of my wallet, either.

The First Purchase (and some a lot of geekiness): A few more months passed. There was a Star Trek convention. I do not think there was a charge to get it, but I do not remember.

I do remember George Takei was a guest, and that this was at the time that all Trekkers (I am a Trekkie) hated Shatner. During the Q&A session with Takei, someone mentioned that there was a scene in one of the movies where Sulu receives his own command, and hat Shatner had gotten it cut from the movie, and would Takei re-enact the scene for us. Takei graciously refused. (This event is what made him my favorite original Trek star.)

I should mention that this convention took place shortly after Generations came out, and Generations was NOT the movie in question.

Anyway, at the time, I was playing the Star Trek Collectible Card Game. (My Romulan deck was my favorite.) And at the convention, they had entire boxes of boosters for really great deals. Only, I was still a poor college student, living off of working 20 hours a week, and left over money from scholarships. My mom paid my grocery bill, but I paid my own rent (and rent was more than a single paycheck, which is another financial lesson I learned in college. I never wanted any bill to be more than a single paycheck).

But payday was soon. I would totally have enough money on payday to buy a box of boosters. And, I  had a credit card in my wallet.

That’s right, my very first credit card purchase ever was a box of Star Trek: The Next Generation Collectible Card Game booster packs.

The Fall Out: I did not, I am sad to say, pay off the entire bill when it came. No, I was a poor college student, and that “extra” money from my paycheck had gone to silly things like instead of only spending $1.06 on breadsticks for lunch, I spent a whole $5 on a personal pan pizza, breadsticks, and a drink. (I would kill for a similar deal now, but at the time, that was a serious splurge- basically the money for an entire week’s worth of lunch spent in one day.)

After that, the credit card was used for other things that weren’t paid off right away, and it grew to be a very nasty lesson for me in credit card use. It did not teach me to pay off my credit card every month (that had to wait 15 years for DH to be laid off and my budget to go to hell), but it did teach me not to miss a payment, and not to only make minimum payments, which is something, at least.

 

Not my autographed picture

More Geekiness: And now, because it is tangentially related, and I’m in a bit of a Star Trek mood, let me tell you my favorite Trek convention story.

It was a few years later. I was meeting friends at a convention at which John DeLancie was the featured speaker. Trek timeline wise, this would have been right after Q’s first appearance on Voyager.

I walked from the university to the casino hosting the convention (remember, I lived in Reno, everything happened in a casino), and got in the first set of elevators to go up to the convention floor. I other people got on and off at a different floor. I wasn’t really paying attention to the other people in the elevator, when I heard this guy with a cool accent speak. (For the life of me, I can’t remember if it was British or Australian or what, I just remember it was the accent that drew my attention.) I looked toward the accent, and then immediately forgot about it, because the guy with the accent was talking to JOHN DELANCIE! I was in an elevator with John DeLancie!

I wanted to say something, but only two thoughts popped in my head.

1)      “Oh my God! You’re John Delancie.” I decided this would be the stupidest possible thing to say as he certainly knew who he was.

2)      “I never through Jon Luc a parade” which was a line from his Voyager episode. I couldn’t bring myself to say it though, because it was just too geeky and there were other people on the elevator.

And then the elevator stopped at the floor for the Trek convention. I got off. John DeLancie did not. I searched out my friends, barely able to keep from jumping up and down, to tell them about being on an elevator with John DeLancie!

I paid for an autographed picture of him at that con, too. I am certain I still have it somewhere.

from the Q Voyager episode

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Move Along, Nothing to See Here

For my own sanity, my current organizational goals must focus on the upstairs. If I even start thinking about our basement, I’ll become to overwhelmed to do anything.

We finished cleaning out the MIL’s apartment on Saturday. Besides three different trips to Goodwill, and two trips to Value Village that included two large bags of stuffed animals, 140 VHS tapes, and some furniture, we have added a significant number of items to our basement. Some things, like the cedar chest and the doll that C’s grandmother made to look like him when he was born, will be with us forever, and hopefully something we can hand down to our children. Other items, like the boxes and boxes of photographs will be scanned and then distributed to other family members.

And still other things will just live in my basement until C can bear to part with them. (And that’s a conscious choice of words. His mother collected bears, and dolphins, and orcas.) It is those things that I have to allow myself to let go of emotionally. I know they will never be used in decorating our home, so they will remain in our basement until C can let go of them physically.

And I have to be honest, some things that we’ve kept are my fault- the two intarsia pieces that my step-father made for her will likely never be hung in our house either, but my step-father has also passed, and I have very little of his work.

And then there’s the combo DVD/VDR player. We have to keep that. I know, I said we got rid of 140 VHS tapes, but we kept the Star Trek box set (actually mine) and a set of the original Star Wars trilogy. (I think we probably have at least one other box set of that, and two box sets of the digitally re-mastered versions from before we were a couple.) And, being the geeks we are, we believe it imperative that we one day be able to show our child/children the original movies, you know, where HAN SHOOTS FIRST. This is not optional.

There are items of mine down there that I need to be responsible for getting rid of- like collectible Avon perfume bottles. Sadly, they go for very little on eBay. I may, though, be able to get around $40 for my Rainbow Brite doll…

 

This bear will never live upstairs, My dogs would destroy it.

So, focusing on the upstairs. I’ve had a firm goal of when I move something, I’m moving it to where it is actually going to go, instead of just getting it out of the way. That way, I move things once, instead of three or four times.

We have made some progress. We have shredded a ton of paperwork we don’t need anymore. Today, we moved the printer from the office/spare room/future child’s room into our room. That means that we’ll be able to get rid of the desktop in there altogether- including a CRT monitor. I have to remind myself that small steps are still steps, and any forward progress is good.

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Sunday Evening Post #35

Day

Amount

Place

Category

Tuesday

$113.00

CostCo

House

Wednesday

$7.00

Cafeteria

Allowance

Friday

$47.00

Safeway

Groceries

$35.00

Outback

Eating Out

Sunday

$27.00

Starbucks

Allowance +

$75.00

Gas

Car

If felt like we spent more this week than we actually did. Monday, we had our first home study interview. That went well, I think. I also discovered on Monday that I had apparently overheated our paper shredder and broken it. So Tuesday, off I went to CostCo for a new one (which was only $70 of that expense- I also got some other household items). Wednesday I don’t remember if I forgot to bring lunch or just didn’t want what I brought, but I got myself lunch at the cafeteria. Thursday I was good, and then Friday morning, I stopped at Safeway for some goodies for the office as well as a few things for us. Friday night, after taking a load of stuff to Value Village, C and I went to dinner at Outback. We had cheese fries and split a steak.

I had planned on us spending money on Saturday. Saturday was the day we had to finish cleaning out the MIL’s apartment. We were going to take our moving help out for lunch when we were done, but everything took longer than we thought, and our help needed to head home. So we came inside, crashed, and had rice with cream of mushroom for dinner.

Sunday I got two $10 gift cards at Starbucks. One was as a thank you to one of our moving helpers (who is in my writing group) so that was cheaper than taking her out to lunch would have been. The other was as a birthday gift for another writing group member, though she was not able to make it this morning.

Then I went and got gas for the car. And not just gas for the car, but also filled 3 of our 10 liter cans.

 

I have six goals for 2012. As part of the Sunday evening posts, I am tracking those goals, kind of like I do for spending, in order to hold myself accountable.

1)      Be paid for publishing one piece of fiction

Submissions so far: 2

Responses: 1 rejection 1 acceptance

2)      Make money publishing my next art/fiction book

This is on hold for now. I did, however, start a new website this weekend called The Prose Passage, which is focused on writing and critique. As of now, I haven’t added an AdSense to it, but I probably will.

3)      Attend FinCon12. Pay for the trip with money from allowance/side projects saved/earned BEFORE the conference starts. Goal: $600

My current balance is $45. I have already bought the ticket to FinCon12.

Our credit card points were being doubled or something for February and March. If we have another month or two like those, I will be able to pay for my entire plane ticket with credit card points. As it stands, right now I could buy a ticket with points and only $70 out of pocket.

4)      Become a member of Yakezie (6 month anniversary is Jan 21)

I plan to be a member of Epsilon class when the application goes up in August. I do need to make sure I’m still connecting with new challengers, though, because a lot of the challengers on my list this last time will be Yakezie Delta class members.

5)      Make money from my blogs.

AdSense earnings: $18.58 (They won’t send me any money until I hit $100)

6)      Be healthier

We went to the dog park 4 times over 5 days this week. That involves exercise not just for them, but us. The weather has been lovely and it has been nice to get outside and walk around. In addition, I mowed the front lawn today. That definitely counts as exercise.

I don’t know how healthy we have been eating, as Tuesday night J has a craving for enchiladas, and so made us some.