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Officially Unadoptable Howie or Am I a Foster Fail?

January 24, 2013 | Filed under: Fostering
Howie, the first night he was in our home

Howie, the first night he was in our home

I am not certain how I feel about this, but over the weekend, in a discussion with the rescue, we decided that Howie is permanently, officially, unadoptable. This has nothing to do with the snapping issue (which today has been completely nonexistent) and more to do with the fact that he’s an old dog, with health issues that accompany old dogs. It’s hard when you hear a rescue that specializes in old dogs say that they don’t think they can find him an adoptive home.

Please know that Howie does have a “forever” home- my home. The rescue has classified him as a “Final Refuge” dog (scroll to the bottom- Howie, as the most recent entry, is at the bottom) and will continue to pay for his medical care. And as his official owners, they will offer us support and advice regarding his care, we will be the final determiners of, well, the final decisions.

Keeping Howie with us for the next (I suspect) 2-3 years does not make me sad. What makes me sad is  knowing that even rescues that specialize in old dogs are having a hard time adopting out any dog over 12, let alone one with a few chronic problems. Well, Howie might have more than a few problems- deafness, arthritis, heart murmur, suspected diabetes insipidus, high risk for bladder stones –but none of them are that major. (Maybe they would seem worse if I were paying for the every 3 months kidney/bladder check and we were getting the bladder control medication for the diabetes, though.)

Howie, last week at the dog park

Howie, last week at the dog park

What Howie mostly is is sweet and loving. Everyone at the dog park is surprised to hear that he’s a suspected 13 years old. He may not run, but he trots happily everywhere. He still wants to be an explorer dog, and he loves meeting new dogs and new people.

My sadness is not for Howie. I know what kind of life he is going to have, because I am going to provide it. My sadness is for all those other old dogs who are not lucky enough to be placed with an organization like Old Dog Haven, the dogs that live out their remaining days, weeks, months, or years in shelter environments, without there really being much hope for them to have a home.

 

Where does this leave us? Well, we are no longer Howie’s foster home. We are his Final Refuge home. So I guess that leaves me with a question- does this count as a foster fail?

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4 Responses to "Officially Unadoptable Howie or Am I a Foster Fail?"

  1. jan says:
    January 24, 2013 at 12:39 pm

    What an incredibly wonderful thing you are doing for this sweet old dog. Final Refuge home would not be any kind of fail.

    1. ErinShanendoah says:
      January 24, 2013 at 1:05 pm

      It's not a fail in that he won't be cared for, but is it a fail like adopting your foster dog is a foster fail? I mean, I'm never going to have to give him up. Our home was intended to be his foster home and now it will be his forever home. So have I failed (in the good way) at fostering?

      I don't know if anyone can actually answer that for me. I know that I could suppose a "perfect" home for Howie that would be better than ours, and I am sorry he no longer has a chance at that theoretical. At the same time, how likely is it he would have gone to the perfect home? And our home is certainly "good enough", even if it means he and Larry sometimes get territorial with one another. Mostly this means I never have to find out if I could have given him up to another "good enough" home.

  2. jackiebouchard says:
    January 25, 2013 at 11:00 am

    Oh, I think that's wonderful that he'll have a happy loving home with you (and wonderful that the rescue can provide for his medical care.) I think the "Foster Fail" term is a misnomer, even though I know people mean it in a good way. Still – hate to see the word "fail" associated with a dog getting a happy, loving home. Maybe "foster fulfilled" is better. He looks like a real sweetheart and it is awesome of you to provide him with a place to live out his days in comfort and love.

  3. kimateyesonthedollar says:
    January 29, 2013 at 3:32 pm

    That term foster fail has a whole negative connotation but it is actually not a bad thing. I've never taken a dog that old, but I certainly would if I felt we were able to provide for him. He is a very lucky dog indeed.

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