{"id":506,"date":"2012-03-22T17:30:44","date_gmt":"2012-03-23T00:30:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/erinshanendoah.com\/dogatemywallet\/?p=506"},"modified":"2012-03-22T15:28:51","modified_gmt":"2012-03-22T22:28:51","slug":"status-update","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/erinshanendoah.com\/dogatemywallet\/?p=506","title":{"rendered":"Status Update"},"content":{"rendered":"

Checking In:<\/strong> We\u2019re doing okay. Things are moving along, though not always at the pace they should be (or that I think they should be).<\/p>\n

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Current Status:<\/strong> We finish moving everything out of the MIL\u2019s apartment this Saturday. While I don\u2019t want to force C to give up anything, he doesn\u2019t want to, I just don\u2019t know how long we can hold onto a collection of giant bear welcome signs and knick-knacks that we will never use. (And I know, some of the things in our basement are old knick-knacks of mine that will never be used.) But we need to start getting rid of things. Or at least organizing.<\/p>\n

We have two really nice bookshelves in the garage, but they are currently holding garage things. I need to figure out how to clear one of them off, and the find space for it in the basement so that I can start getting some of our books out of the upstairs. I think I\u2019d feel like less of a hoarder if I knew where things were and could find what I wanted easily, instead of guessing where in the pile of boxes X might be.<\/p>\n

We haven\u2019t yet started probate. We\u2019re still dealing with medical bills (and I\u2019m ranting about it over on message boards<\/a>).<\/p>\n

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Progress (or not):<\/strong> C is off school this week and next. But other than doing a little cleaning on Monday before our first home study interview, he hasn\u2019t done anything other than play video games (and meet with his advisor for end of quarter evaluations) during the day.<\/p>\n

Maybe I\u2019m pushing things, but I really need to get some of these house things done (or at least started) and I don\u2019t think I should have to be present for every single little project.<\/p>\n

My desk at home is cleared off, and I am considering a smaller desk so that we could have room for a second bookshelf in our room, which might help some things too.<\/p>\n

The office\/spare room\/my closet is still a disaster, but I am making progress. I actually accidentally overheated our paper shredder and caused it to break, so on Tuesday I went to CostCo and got us a bigger and better one.<\/p>\n

I have no idea, if J stays living with us, what we\u2019re going to do for closet space once our child needs his\/her own. For now, my stuff can remain in the future child\u2019s room, but there really, really isn\u2019t enough room in a single closet for all of mine and C\u2019s clothes, even with our captain\u2019s bed drawers. Maybe I just need to do a major cull of clothes again, and this time get C to go through his.<\/p>\n

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It\u2019s (not) All About Me:<\/strong> I\u2019m tired. I\u2019m frustrated. I\u2019m rant-y, and I feel like nothing is getting done if I don\u2019t do it. It\u2019s a miracle I haven\u2019t had a shingles outbreak yet.<\/p>\n

BUT, and this really is a big but, I didn\u2019t just lose my mother. I have to remember that. C doesn\u2019t have either parent anymore. I still have 3 of my 4. C doesn\u2019t have any grandparents left. I still have 1 of 4. I am incredibly lucky, and I know it.<\/p>\n

I need to let him grieve in his way, and I need to chill, which isn\u2019t exactly easy for me. I like having plans and steps to check off along the path. I like moving in a quick and orderly fashion from one step to the next. Life doesn\u2019t always let us do that.<\/p>\n

For my own sake, for the sake of my husband, and the sake of our marriage, I need to step back and relax, and just let things be, at least for a little while.<\/p>\n

(So naturally that means I\u2019m contemplating a new project to direct all this energy I have toward, instead of directing it toward the projects I need to do at home.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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